Court order wording....

[Runlovingmummy81]

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I am trying to follow the court order with abusive ex husband, we are currently in discussions regarding the summer holidays next year as we book the want to get things booked.

The court order states the first week starts on a Monday at 3pm, I get weeks 1, 3 and 5, he gets 2, 4 and 6.

The boys break up on Tuesday 24th July.

Where does week 1 start?

Starting week 1 the day before they break up makes sense but then the part week at the end should either follow normal term time contact patterns or be yours to make up for you missing a day at the beginning

Do week 1 as 23rd so you get end of school and 3 days
Week 2 is 30th- him
Week 3 is 6th - you
Week 4 is 13th - him
Week 5 is 20th - you
Week 6 is 27th - him

They come back to you on 3rd so you get a day or so and start of school?

Well, he doesn't get to dismiss it.

'I disagree. The order clearly states that week 1 begins on a Monday, the first Monday of the holidays is the 23rd. The boys will be available from the 30th for the start of Week 2. If you believe that this needs further discussion, feel free to call a solicitor. Once again I'd like to remind you that the inflexibility about arrangements last year caused the boys quite a bit of distress. I can't see that making them feel this way is anything but detrimental to your relationship with them, and I'd hate as they get older for them to not choose the shared time.'

Stop giving in to him. Hide behind a solicitor if necessary. And if he doesn't bring them back, just go straight to the court.

He'll lose out, as children tend to pull away from twat parents who use them as pawns as they get older. But ho-hum.

Having been where you have been with my ex, I would seriously consider considering the week they break up as week 1. You only miss out on having them at home during the school hours on the 24th, so 6 hours. If it would mean less of a fight then just accept missing put on 6 hours of your time. You will have them in the evening of the 23rd.

He also wants them from my Fri so he'd have them Fri to the following Monday

Start from the 24th, but bunk off and go away earlier.

What is the normal custody arrangement term tome?

Do you mean he wants then from the Friday before they break up all through week 1? Recite the court order

That isn't possible ExP because we have plans that week. As per Court, they will be ready 3om Monday and you will have them the weekend after.

Or if it suits your needs he gets Fri - Fri that week then you get them Fri till following Monday to get back on schedule

He wants them from the Fri of my week 5 through to the end of his week 6.

That doesbt work for me ExP, I have already made plans for that last full week. As per the Court order they will be ready 3 pm on Monday