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To think that some people have more money than sense?

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HappyHappyJoyJoyy · 22/11/2017 08:21

So I was at a toddler group with my 15mo and the lady running the group commented on how nice one of the lg's shoes were. The mother of said child said that they were a Kanye West brand and that they cost her £300. Everyone else in the room who heard this were clearly surprised. It was a bit of a tumbleweed moment but the mother just laughed it off.

Now I know it's each to their own and everyone is perfectly entitled to do what they want with their own money but I was just shocked. I wouldn't spend that amount on a pair of shoes for myself never mind a toddler who wouldn't even be in them for very long. I just wouldn't be able to justify it, even if I was loaded.

AIBU for thinking this?

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Rebeccaslicker · 22/11/2017 08:23

I wouldn't judge anyone for what they spent their money on.

I might well judge them for announcing it to a room full of people AND for buying anything to do with Kanye west though!

FritzDonovan · 22/11/2017 08:25

If you were loaded you wouldn't be looking at price tags. You'd buy them because they looked nice. However, having seen some of the tripe KW has put out, I'm not sure I'd think they looked nice, loaded or not. Which I'm not.

myusernamewastaken · 22/11/2017 08:25

Its ridiculous....but then again I roll my eyes when people on here boast about buying Jo Malone candles....its a candle ffs..why spend more than a couple of quid...

MooominMamma · 22/11/2017 08:25

I'm the same, I work in a nursery and I am often amazed at the designer labels children rock up in. It's such a waste of money, but then I guess, it's not my money they're wasting, but it still baffles me.

LostInShoebiz · 22/11/2017 08:27

Maybe she looks at something you have or do and thinks the same.

Fabellini · 22/11/2017 08:30

I know I'm probably clutching at straws here, but maybe she didn't buy them and they were a present?
My dsis is in a very high powered position and lives at the opposite end of the country from us - when my dcs were little they were often seen in some pretty expensive designer stuff, but it wasn't because I'd bought any of it....it was courtesy of doting, but distant auntie!

LemonShark · 22/11/2017 08:30

You're not BU to have your own personal thoughts and opinions on whether you'd spend that much on a certain item. But YABU to judge someone else for how they spend their money if it's not harming anyone. It's their money, they earned it, they can spend it on anything they like. I'm sure you spend money on some items other people with less would view as frivolous.

demirose87 · 22/11/2017 08:33

I would judge someone that had wasted their money on an item like that if they sacrificed other things to have them, but if they are well off, it might not be an big expense to them. But how someone spends their money isn't really my business at the end of the day and each to their own.

Mulch · 22/11/2017 08:39

I'd judge someone for feeling the need to broadcast their price tags but other than that if that's how they want to spend their money it's their money

unlimiteddilutingjuice · 22/11/2017 08:39

It's a daft purchase OP. I would be a bit surprised as well!
I guess the attraction with designer kids clothes is that you may be able to afford labels for the kids that you couldn't afford in an adult size and so it allows you to participate a little in that shiny, aspirational world. Plus the hopeful symbolism of providing the "best" for a young child. Same reason people buy high end buggies I guess.
I had a work collegue who used to dress her baby in high street clothes during the week and designer for the weekend because it was a "reflection on me" apparently.
She was a lovely person though and gave me 3 bin bags of hand me downs when my DS was born.
DS was a very well dressed baby

Woolfrai · 22/11/2017 08:52

I wouldn't want to judge in that scenario. It's no-ones business how they spend their money. I also think it sounds like it wasn't just an impromptu announcement/boast about the cost, it sounds like she was in responded to a comment.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 22/11/2017 08:55

If she's got plenty of money, it's up to her, but IMO it was crass to quote the price to other parents not in a position to spend that sort of money even if they wanted to.

I've heard several times of people who buy expensive designer things for children - because they must have 'the best' - when it means credit card debt - including a colleague's relative - a little Gdd at only 3 told her GM very sniffily that 'I only wear designer' after said GM offered to buy her a jumper she thought she'd like.

Same child's mother was constantly complaining of being skint and badgering her own mother for money to pay the bills.

KERALA1 · 22/11/2017 08:56

Dd was dressed head to toe in designer gear as a toddler when I stumbled across a jumble sale run by bankers wives in Hampstead. Found myself explaining this at toddler groups for fear of people thinking I actually bought it all new

silkpyjamasallday · 22/11/2017 08:56

Well anyone who outright tells you how much something cost without being asked is a tacky show off. Also I know the trainers you are talking about, the adult versions are £300, the infant ones are only (ha!) £100 so she is a show off and a liar. I'm actually cringing for her.

I buy some higher end stuff for dd, Bonpoint, Dior, Ralph Lauren but second hand on eBay for not more than I would pay on the high street. Never flashy logo stuff, I just find that the above brands do really nice traditional style clothes with better materials, goose down snowsuits rather than polyester or silk velvet rather than cheap velour stuff. I would never pay the £200 some of the dresses cost new, even if I could afford it. But I'm glad that people do and sell them on so cheaply.

SD1978 · 22/11/2017 08:56

Different people have different incomes, what seems OTT to some, is commonplace to others. Wouldn’t bother me, others can do as they please with their income. Did they look nice?!

BitchQueen90 · 22/11/2017 08:57

The only thing I'd judge there is someone buying anything to do with Kanye West.

Ilovelampandchair · 22/11/2017 08:58

Better than no money and no sense😅

ginplease8383 · 22/11/2017 09:02

Are people still show offs if they tell you when they get a bargain? A friend complimented me on a dress last week and I gushed “£12 from primark isn’t it great?”

EssentialHummus · 22/11/2017 09:02

A friend recently bought us a £250 newborn gift set... in pristine white. I had a giggle to myself when I opened it.

Llamacorn · 22/11/2017 09:03

But why did she need to broadcast the (incorrect and inflated) price, unless if only to gloat? What's wrong with just saying 'thanks'?

I admit when I had dd1 I was bad for buying expensive labels, but many of the more discreet brands - I'd never buy anything with big logos enblazened across the items, I personally think that's awful.

I soon realised what a waste it was when things were ruined or outgrown and resale wasn't great. But that was my choice, as it is everyone's choice what to spend their own money on.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 22/11/2017 09:07

Well I think you're right, but someone has to buy these high-end designer baby things, or it wouldn't be worth their while making them. I couldn't do it myself - they're out of them so quickly, unless I was planning on having hordes of babies myself, to hand them onto, I just couldn't justify it, however wealthy I was (I'm not).

ivenoideawhatimdoing · 22/11/2017 09:09

I wouldn't judge her for her purchase but I'd judge her for announcing it.

She's trying to show off and impress others.

It's just tacky.

Dippydippydora · 22/11/2017 09:09

I sometimes wish I had more money then sense
Mind you that would be about £50

Hoppinggreen · 22/11/2017 09:11

Spending it? No judgement from me
Showing off about it? I would judge them HARD!!

Bitlost · 22/11/2017 09:13

She probably has even less money than sense.

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