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To be slightly annoyed by misdescribed raffle prize?

127 replies

TheMadGardener · 22/11/2017 00:03

So last weekend was our local church bazaar and there was a big raffle with some great prizes. One of the top prizes was advertised as (and printed on the tickets) as "Dinner for two at (local very posh country house 5 star hotel and restaurant)". Nice prize. Anyway, I bought some raffle tickets.

We didn't stay for the raffle draw but later I got a phone call to say that I had won the "dinner for two at posh hotel" prize. I was really pleased and so was my husband. I went and collected my prize today, and in the envelope is a brochure from the hotel and a little slip which says "Voucher for two-course set menu lunch for two (drinks not included)."

I know I am BU to be a bit disappointed because we'll still get a free meal, but I think it''s a bit off to advertise it as dinner on the raffle tickets and then it turns out to be lunch instead. I don't think I'll tell the church though; wouldn't want to upset the vicar! Smile

OP posts:
HermionesRightHook · 22/11/2017 08:01

I call the midday meal dinner, and what I have after work, tea.

But going out for dinner or dinner for two at a naice hotel definitely means an evening meal.

diddl · 22/11/2017 08:09

I think of dinner as the main meanl of the day-which for me is at lunch time, so it would seem odd to call it dinner.

That said, midday meal at school was served by dinner ladies!

DadDadDad · 22/11/2017 08:13

As you're asking AIBU to be slightly annoyed, I think YABU - that's a reasonable emotional response in the circumstances.

I don't think you should complain. Maybe after the meal, you could drop a note to the vicar or organiser thanking them for the lovely prize, and politely pointing out if they do this next year that they might want to make it clearer what the prize is and that drinks are not included which might make it unaffordable for some people. Then the ball is in their court about doing this in the future.

DadDadDad · 22/11/2017 08:14

Aagh, I meant YANBU . Sorry!

oldmum22 · 22/11/2017 08:17

Enjoy the meal , what ever time it is . All it cost you was the price of a raffle ticket ;-)

Thetreesareallgone · 22/11/2017 08:18

Why do you need to have drinks at lunchtime anyway? Lunch for two in a posh hotel is still a lovely prize. I think to complain about it is churlish, it's hardly like they deliberately tried to trick you, it's just a slight misunderstanding.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 22/11/2017 08:24

Mild disappointment is indeed a proportionate reaction.

A million years ago when I was at school I won the big prize in a raffle or other fundraising thing. It was a free cruise! I was thrilled, until my mum and I read the small print in the brochure. There was one free holiday on offer and it was a condition of the prize that an under 16 had to be accompanied. The other person would have had to pay full price and no way could we afford that, so I couldn't take up the prize. Heigh ho. I get seasick anyway, so I wasn't gutted!

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 22/11/2017 08:29

Restaurants don't call midday lunches dinner. They've obviously backtracked.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 22/11/2017 08:29

But I wouldn't have expected drinks to be included, tbh. That's fairly standard.

ShatnersWig · 22/11/2017 08:31

YANBU to feel that but I wouldn't make a fuss about it.

There is no 5* country house hotel or restaurant in the UK that would refer to a meal at lunchtime as dinner. Dinner for two means evening meal.

LannieDuck · 22/11/2017 08:37

I'll bet the restaurant doesn't offer their dinner menu at lunch time...

notacooldad · 22/11/2017 08:38

I wouldn't have expected to win anything in the first place
To be nonest I wouldn't care what the restrictions are and certainly wouldn't expect a drink to be included.

All I would have done is check when it could be used because that would affect What I would do with it. . Evening meal I would go with DG or if it was lunch time only I would probably give it to one of my kids.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 22/11/2017 09:10

I wouldn't have expected to win anything in the first place
But it was available to win, and op did win, presumably fair and square, so that's hardly relevant Confused

notacooldad · 22/11/2017 09:30

I wouldn't have expected to win anything in the first place
But it was available to win, and op did win, presumably fair and square, so that's hardly relevant confused

Alright , the point I was making was any prizes would have been greatfully received and I wouldn't have been bothered about them.

As far as I am concerned I paid to support the cause and not bothered about the outcome so it wouldn't have made any difference to me if it was lunch or dinner.

endofthelinefinally · 22/11/2017 09:33

I won a free meal voucher at a school fete once.
The restaurant had closed down.

diddl · 22/11/2017 09:38

"Alright , the point I was making was any prizes would have been greatfully received"

I don't think that the OP is up in arms though, is she-just disappointed that she hasn't won what she thought she had?

HaHaHmm · 22/11/2017 09:48

There was a CF thread on here a few weeks ago from a hairdresser MNer. CF friend had promised a very expensive cut and colour at her salon as a prize for the Christmas raffle to try and impress the PTA mums but without asking the OP. OP went ballistic and ended up offering an updo instead. I wonder if the prize has been over-sold here, too.

shutitandtidyupgitface · 22/11/2017 09:54

In some areas of the country, lunch is called 'dinner'. I suspect that whoever wrote the raffle prizes out is one of these people so they thought they were being accurate

Sorry but this is nonsense. Yes of course some people say dinner for lunch and tea for dinner, but not for restaurants. Nobody says dinner for 2 meaning lunch.

I don't know why people are saying OP is U. If a prize is offered it needs to be as described, legally as well as just obviously.

nannybeach · 22/11/2017 09:59

So, if you call the mid-day meal "dinner" after work is tea, do you go out for "tea" in the evening!! Tea, is an afternoon thing, sones, cake and TEA. Seems to be an area thing DH comes from SE London, he has dinner midday, tea evening, except when we go out (in the evening for dinner!) In Sussex growing up, lunchtime lunch time midday, dinner evening, wasnt always "hot" though in the summer could be salad. Perhaps raffle should have just said "meal" to avoid confusion.

diddl · 22/11/2017 10:03

Here in Germany it's midday meal & evening meal.

Saves confusion/angstGrin

GoingCrazy21 · 22/11/2017 10:10

Where I live people would be surprised if it turned out to be an evening meal!

Although as with other posters, I would expect for a restaurant it would be an evening meal.

I think a lunch would be fun though. I'm imagining nice country walk followed by a gorgeous meal!

ArchchancellorsHat · 22/11/2017 10:16

I'd also expect dinner at a fancy place to take place in the evening, though without drinks tbf. maybe one glass of wine. I'd imagine though that it was just a mix up on the part of the person writing up the list of prizes rather than anything deliberate.

It doesn't say you can only have your lunch on a rainy Tuesday in January at 12 on the dot does it? As that really would be a bit shit.

Jux · 22/11/2017 10:17

I think that, at the very least, you should be fuming, if not incandescent! Grin

Sparklingbrook · 22/11/2017 10:22

Just go for your free lunch. Or give the voucher to someone else.

Would you have still bought a raffle ticket if it said 'lunch' not 'dinner'?

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 22/11/2017 10:24

Irrelevant, Sparkling. She won the raffle and the ticket said dinner. Op hasn't said the prospect of a free dinner was the sole reason for buying a ticket!

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