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The Bah Humbug Thread

35 replies

runwalkrun · 21/11/2017 23:50

Do you wish Christmas was once every two years?
Do you hate the expense?
The having to spend enforced 'jolly time' with relations you could cheerfully murder the rest of the year?
Do you hate the Groundhog-Day ness of it all?
To quote a fellow bah humbugger,
Christmas and New year is the same every fucking year. I've done it 45 times now and have had enough
The lack of snow, year after year.
I know I know
Think of the Children Hmm

There should be a support group. If you tell people in RL you hate Christmas they look at you as if you have two heads.

Tell me I'm not the only miserable sod Grin

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Bahhhhhumbug · 21/11/2017 23:54

Yes?......you rang Grin

Wellthatwasembarassing · 22/11/2017 00:01

I love the idea of Christmas but always end up hating the actual day! It promises so much and ALWAYS fails to deliver.

runwalkrun · 22/11/2017 00:01
Grin Yes. Misery wants company.
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CitrusSun · 22/11/2017 00:02

Am with you runwalkrun, it’s too much, have had enough of the TV ads and it’s not even Dec yet! Am financially completely strapped this year so don’t feel I can really participate in buying much, not that I would go OTT but think i’d feel more festive if I could buy something for loved ones. I like the saying ‘spending time with relations you can’t relate to’ ! It is the same every year, Boots wheel out the same stuff, as do lots of other shops and it feels repetitive. I think the day itself holds some magic and I love the kids’ excitement, it’s the build-up I don’t like and it’s hard to avoid unless you go to another planet for the next few weeks!

Nettletheelf · 22/11/2017 00:03

Did your business partner die a few years ago?

Does your door have a brass knocker on it?

Do you have a clerk with a disabled son?

Do you have an estranged jolly nephew?

Depending on your answers, I believe that I can predict the future.

runwalkrun · 22/11/2017 00:03

I could cope if we only had to put up with it once every 2 years.
But every year, as soon as it's finished the buildup starts again.
It's the relentlessness of the whole thing.

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runwalkrun · 22/11/2017 00:06

Citrus, those adverts are the pits.
They must make a lot of families feel like shit because their Christmas isn't like the adverts.

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runwalkrun · 22/11/2017 00:07

Nettle, my son is called Tim.

not really

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Nettletheelf · 22/11/2017 00:16

God bless us, one and all!

Could you go on holiday over Christmas, or something?

nowwheredidmyunicorngo · 22/11/2017 00:23

Reporting for duty, OP Grin

MiraiDevant · 22/11/2017 00:27

Me too. Hate the ads. Try to ignore but can't the subtle increasing of pressure. If people buy for me and invite me and arrange Secret Santas and Xmas lunches for me it is impossible to make that many excuses.

I haven't got TIME for this. I don't WANT anything. I'm too FAT and really do not want to eat myself silly just because it is there. And I have NO money.

Relentless is certainly the word.

The actual day is not too bad - it's all the demands on me for the whole of bloody December that I hate!!
So - yes - Bah Humbug!!!

BahHumbygge · 22/11/2017 00:32

Call received. Checking in for duty Smile

80sMum · 22/11/2017 00:37

I rather like the week or so before Christmas:- putting up the Christmas tree while listening to the same old Christmas CDs as last year; coming home from work on the day the office closes and knowing I am on leave for Christmas week; shopping for a few edible gifts for the family; going for a walk in the woods and collecting a few twigs of holly; watching the Carols from King's etc.

Christmas Day itself is usually a bit of a damp squib. Often cloudy and overcast nondescript weather, too much food and not enough peace and quiet.

TinDogTavern · 22/11/2017 00:48

Well, I quit doing Christmas about ten years ago and have never looked back. I don't do anything - no gifts, no cards, no visiting relatives NOTHING. It's GLORIOUS.

Now I completely get that I can get away with it as I don't have kids/a partner, so you guys probably can't just quit. But my advice would be start with a clean sheet of paper and draw up what you want your Christmas to look like, as against what you currently feel obliged to do and, by the looks of things, is making you miserable. Then try and work towards that, over time balancing your needs against your obligations.

Good luck, light and peace x

KC225 · 22/11/2017 02:06

Stick your head up a big turkey cavity and no one will hear you scream

runwalkrun · 22/11/2017 16:31

Stick your head up a big turkey cavity and no one will hear you scream

I would gladly do that.
Love Mr Bean.

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LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 22/11/2017 16:38

Yes I'm just back from the shops, after having to dodge all the dribbling, gormless goons either stopping dead in front of me because "there's that thing oor John wants" or pushing past because "there's only 100 unicorn water bottle's left!" Wankers. Roll on January.

twofloorsup · 22/11/2017 16:45

I thought it was just me !!
It's just so boring and monotonous and dutiful !
Glad I'm not the only one.
Anyone else have to put on a class act for excited offspring?

runwalkrun · 22/11/2017 17:13

It's the having to pretend to be pleased and happy and excited and all warm and fuzzy and hygge (or however the heck you say it)
and don't start me on all those ridiculous Christmas markets that have sprung up.
They are another kind of hell. They're overcrowded, noisy, with crappy christmas music and full of overpriced 'gifts' that nobody really needs.
Christmas Markets don't even suit this country. They suit countries where they have lots and lots of SNOW.

phew, this feels good.

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gingergenius · 22/11/2017 17:21

@runwalkrun if it snowed, would you feel better??? Wink

runwalkrun · 22/11/2017 17:24

Only if it were really deep snow, the type of snow that cuts you off from civilization for a couple of months until Christmas is over

I think snow would help somewhat. It would go a little way towards making the whole sorry affair a bit more bearable.

Snow and booze.

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gingergenius · 22/11/2017 17:27

Snow & booze. The perfect combo!

I do like Xmas but that's because I'm lucky that it's just me and my kids so it's genuinely enjoyable for us. I haven't noticed much in the was of Christmas advertising because I've been nose-deep in uni/work/kids so have kind of cut off. I suspect if I had to deal with more 'expectations' I'd probably feel the same. Do love Christmas Day though!!!

BobbinThreadbare123 · 22/11/2017 17:27

Hello my people! I have been picked on roundly at work for not having a Xmas tree today. Humbug!

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 22/11/2017 19:54

It's too early to put the tree up. Dammit Angry

Middleoftheroad · 22/11/2017 20:00

Like PP I like the week or so before but always feel like I 'miss' the run up.

E.g. Not seen John Lewis ad for example and somebody at work was going on about Moz and I said "what?" and she was horrified as she'd countdown to the ad premiere. I've still not seen the ad as I dont get John Lewis.

I loved Christmas when I was younger. An annual visit to London, buying a real tree, an annual shop somewhere other than Kwik Save. Money was tight and so it felt extra special.

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