Racist uncle

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My uncle, not for the first time, just shared a racist, Islamophobic and totally disgusting post on Facebook. It just made me so angry, I can feel my blood boiling. If it wasn't for my lovely mum (none of the rest of my family, except for probably his wife and kids, share his views) then I would comment on it and tell him exactly what I think of him. He doesn't like me anyway! (I am a bleeding heart liberal snowflake, or whatever ) Anyway, I've unfriended him. I'm not planning on seeing him for ages if ever again anyway. He never has coherent views, or decent arguments, by the way. He is just a racist.

So my AIBU... would it be completely passive aggressive to make a donation to a refugee crisis charity in his name, and put it in an Xmas card?

Lord no YANBU.

Make that donation!

That makes no sense.

You can't comment because of your lovely mum, yet you're willing to pull a stunt that's likely to make him angry?

Personally I'd save my money and just tell him what I think of him.

I'm sure your mum will understand.

Block him and report it to his local police for being a hate crime and let him know, I do it all the time with racist or transphobic posts on facebook. They are points of views which are falling out of favour thank God.

Fair enough. I have no time for racism whatsoever. Incidentally, which race did he show prejudice towards

Agree with FriendNoMore, block,report and tell him why. Having had Racist and Islamaphobic comments directed towards me, in/directly or in the ‘just having a laugh’ way...until you confront the person and make them aware of the severity of their actions,they will continue. I have commented and corrected many such posts, some by people who I know well (neighbours, work colleagues).
No need for it in this day and age. Make the donation, even if it is passive aggressive or not appreciated by your uncle...you are helping Someone in genuine need. It is difficult when you don’t want to cause your mum to be in an awkward position, but hopefully she will understand your frustration and need to confront your uncle.

Thanks all

Worra I suppose I'd hope that it wouldn't get back to my mum (they don't talk much), but i imagine that it would. I have not thought through my plan in great detail!

friendnomore I reported the post to fb, hadn't thought of reporting to the police, do they do anything about it?

user the post in question targeted Muslims, i know Islam isn't a race, but I'd class Islamophobia as a type of cultural racism

bee sorry you've experienced that. I will make the donation. He's vile and thick. I hate how social media seems to make it acceptable to have these disguising views, or at least allows people to share them. It makes me sick.

YABU - virtue signalling.

Have nothing to do with him if you like. I wouldn't.

Make a donation - the bigger the better - if you like. I would

Report the post to FB if you really want to, (along with any other hate posts anti-Islam or anti-West or anti anyone in fact) . I do.

But the Christmas card idea will achieve nothing except be something to tell your friends that you did thus "proving you are not a racist"