best mate ditching me when I needed them the most.

[roomsonfire]

OK I have name changed for obvious reasons.

My DC went missing, police called, later found, all is well and all that.

called the people my DC knows and the one person who is my best mate for years. Over a decade .

long story short best mate who doesn't work, 'no sorry cant help today' I could understand if they were at work but it was a 'sorry can't help' no let me know whats going on, no questions about what I'd done, keep me in the loop etc just very cold, quick to get me off the phone.

AIBU to be pissed the one person who I thought I could rely on was so fucking flippant my DC was missing?

fwiw I have been there when he's had lots of other big things going on inc a relative in court for quite serious stuff.

I am aware the situ has probably clouded things but other friends were out looking etc doing what they could to help.

I've had to deal with police and all sorts today. At the best of times its stressful and I've been left to it all day. My Ex (not DCs dad) saw my FB post about DC being missing and called straight away despite living in a different city. Other friends went out and helped me look in places DC might've been too. So this is very different to others and not what Id expect from a best mate.

Shite day all round

He was having a shag. Your DC's welfare was not more important to him than getting sex. That's why he cut you off and didn't help.

^^yup.

yep dione thats what it feels like. I cant prove it but all evidence so far points to that.

disappointed is the only word that comes to mind but it barely explains how I am feeling. Used somewhat, let down... ugh.

Does your friend have kids?

If not, he may not have been able to appreciate how stressful it can be as a parent when your child doesn't arrive home from school (or wherever it was your son had gone) when they were supposed to.

It might have seemed like a very small deal to him is all.

SaucyJack given he has been in DCs life since birth. I doubt it.