Posted for traffic, have name changed.
Last year my dc who has learning difficulties made friends with a teen boy at a sports activity.
The boy was rather depressed and self harmed and talked about suicide and actively encouraged my dc to do the same. There were lots of things mentioned like dying together. It was all a mess. The boy tried to encourage my dc to self harm. Dc had shown nothing like this before but was desperate to fit in as struggles to maintain friendship. We got help from Mind who were brilliant.
Dc finds school really stressful. At their old school we had full on refusal to go, massive meltdowns and violence towards myself whenever something went wrong with school. I mean hitting, pushing, throwing things at me, slamming door on me etc and tipping the bin everywhere.
I went to the doctors twice but Camhs refused the referral.
We tried a new secondary following bullying which was dc choice but it's the pressure dc can't cope with and as exams get closer it is getting worse. Dc hates school and gets very anxious. I actually considered home ed and we had a place at a college that would take for core maths and English and a btech part time and home ed the rest but dc backed out at the last minute and stayed at school.
The school term started and dc changed their mind and wanted the home ed and college place. The course is full so dc can't go which resulted in massive meltdowns and aggression and screaming at me because I can't magic the place back.
Dc has now taken to screaming and shouting at me down the phone every time a bus is late or school keep them in late or such because it's my fault that the college does not have a place now dc turned it down.
This morning I found letters to his friends and my parents saying goodbye.
And a letter to me saying the world is too stressful.
I have spoken to dc who was already at school who said it was done ages ago because we were arguing all the time and they are fed up of it.
Arguing is by their own admission me asking them not to be aggressive to me or me asking them to do something twice when they have ignored me. I don't argue with dc at all. Dc utterly screams and shouts at me daily and is always saying I am getting at him because I've asked him to stop screaming at me or leaving food remains in his bed.
I don't put pressure on dc school wise and just encourage them to try their best. They hardly do any chores at all and only do after school activities they chose so I put no pressure on them at all.
What the hell do I do?