To be Angry at Dh for not taking DD1 to nursery because she was too upset!

[Marne]

I think he should have dragged her in (shes fine once she's there), now she thinks she has won and will not want to go on thursday (when i have to take her)

I was proud of my dh when, taking our ds to nursery one day, ds was so upset dh turned right back. He took him to work that day.

Sorry.

If you take her she may not play you up. Was it a novelty for daddy to take her and that's why she wanted to be with him?

maybe he didn't know the routine and that she'd be fine?

I don't personally think children should have to go to nursery if they don't want to. But I do understand how annoying it can be when one's partner makes an exception to your rule.

She plays up when i take her, this is the first week dh has had to take her as my car is off the road, Shes always fine after i have left her, im hoping its just because dh was taking her, she hates any change in her routine. If i could keep her at home i would, she only goes 3 times a week for 4 1/2 hours while i go to work. She does find it hard to mix as she is shy. It upsets me that i have to make her go.

A change in routine is hard. Do you think she's at the right nursery?

I understand it's upsetting to have to make them go. I know that feeling.

My son and daughter cried every single time I left them at playgroup. The staff reassured me that they were fine as soon as I left. I was convinced that they were heartbroken but I had to work. When I stayed behind without them knowing I saw them miraculously stop crying and start playing without a care in the world.
Now, as adults they don't seem to have suffered!!
Don't beat yourself up, I'm sure she enjoys herself there, your dh is nice but obviously wrapped round her finger!!

How old is she?

Aaah, aren't daddies soft compared to us evil mummies

have you thought about a childminder? My dd is not so great in massive crowds, but she goes to a CM and is fine, lot smaller groups?

She's 3, her sister is 1 and loves it there, she's not used to kids her own age but loves playing with older kids, she has always been shy with females but loves to be around men. I have thought of a childminder but its tough to find one to take both of them. The nursery where they go is a few yard from where i work so its easy for me to drop them off before work.

Last night she told me that she does'nt fit in (which does'nt sound like something dd would say), maybe she has heard a member of staff say this?

Also since she has been going her behaviour has got worse ,she answers me back and thinks its ok to climb over evrything including me and the furniture.