MIL copies me all the time!

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This is really weird imo, there’s 20 years between us and if I mention anything she goes out and buys it before I have chance that turns it round like I’m copying her!
What’s that all about!?

So far she’s been asking me what I’m having in my house, we’re mid renovation, I showed her some wallpaper samples I have next min there all up I her house!
She criticised what carpets I was getting because I decided on the same one through out the whole house and she thought I should have coloured ones in the DD’s rooms guess what? She’s just had a quote for all hers doing the same!
She asked me what I wanted for Christmas I said money as I’m saving up for a certain type of shoe, she’s only gone and bought them herself today!!
There’s plenty of more things I could pick out but it’s just really weird I think and bluddie annoying because she makes out that I copied her! 🙄

AIBU to pick out the worse of the worst clothes/home interior wise and hope she goes and and buys them too!?

Come on OP you could have SO much fun with this. Unleash that imagination

Aw, this is so annoying but also a massive compliment. She might be struggling with not having her own identity and just be over relating to you. You are also probably really stylish and inspiring too.

I wouldn’t set her up to look horrible - that’s just mean —though tempting—. But I think you will have to stop letting things ‘slip out’. You can control that and it would obviously improve your relationship with her. So stop telling her. If you are feeling generous, choose her things and suggest ‘oh I saw X thing that I thought would look great on you’ and see if that helps her.

I’ve just sent her these ‘beauties’

www.flannels.com/puma-pearl-cage-fade-high-top-trainers-234516?colcode=23451634

She just strikes me as trying to keep up with the ‘kids’ 😂

She only ever had my DH so she’s never been able to take inspiration from him haha

Tinsel Christmas tree

Tattoos on your arm tell her your getting one to surprise your dh

Ha ha ha you meanie. They’re fab

You can’t pick family eh

When you next see her, don't speak, but hold up a little card that says

"I'm doing a sponsored silence for Amnesty International. Please don't interact with me for the next 20 years. PS This applies to adults only, kids can chat away."

Talk excitedly about your new hobby of mountaineering. Which you'll find hard to fit in with the golf, swimming the channel, and wreck diving.

Do you know what's a lovely scent? Garlic. You're going to get some soon.

I bet you can't wait to tell her about how slimming mascarpone cheese is, you put a dollop in everything.

You've been doing a new nightly beauty routine, it's taken years off you: a firm surgical spirit and salt scrub, followed by a brief rinse and then blast your face with a hairdryer on hot for 15 minutes.

You've bought tickets to see Mrs Brown's Boys live and you're very excited.

(OK have I gone too far with Mrs Brown?)

Er, I now realise that you won't be able to tell her anything because of your sponsored silence.

So, er, email her instead.

Why are you telling her stuff if you know she does this though? Yes you could set her up. But might it also pay to just say if she asks "don't know, not sure, still thinking about it, undecided, maybe" etc.

Just stop telling her/showing her anything!

Cappy have you ever tried having a conversation about house renovations and Christmas that* is all lies? It’s very hard and most of the things have just been ‘slips’ or my DH has mentioned it. It’s really not as easy as one would think the second you mention it you just no and think fuck sake
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Wonder how much money I could raise doing a sponsored silence? All my family would pay to see that!

Sorry about the bold... not sure what happened there!

“Ooh MIL, I’ve just seen these gorgeous shoes I plan to buy for Christmas...”

www.misspap.co.uk/elin-black-suede-lace-up-high-heels/

“I thought I might go for a nice festive red dress to wear to the panto.”

www.misspap.co.uk/dominique-red-vinyl-bodycon-mini-dress/

Just hope she doesn't get you the trainers for Christmas!

Ding yes!! Planning the convo now to slip in these beauts

Do you ever call her on it?

'Oh, MIL, I said we'd be getting those curtians and now you have them! Same with those shoes, and that carpet. Why do you do that? I know imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, but it's really annoying me!'

If you have, what's her response?

I’ve said stuff like ‘oh that’s what I said I was getting wasn’t it?’ And she just hasn’t taken me on, we get on I like her. even though it’s very annoying I don’t think it’s worth causing a family feud over 😂

Yes she's weird! If the carpets haven't been fitted you've still got time to tell her you've changed your mind.....

www.carpetright.co.uk/carpets/gleneagles-carpet

FFS Fromage, I'd definitely rather have you as a friend than an enemy! 😮😆

Sounds like mine. It’s seriously annoying, I’ve had to take all my make up etc out the bathroom as she roots through finds a lipstick she likes tries it on, comes down wearing it and saying how lovely it is and then buys the same. You name it she will copy it, bedroom furniture, clothes, soap (I had to buy a specialist hand wash as my eczema is really flairing, dropped DS off and low and behold she has the same because it smells nice its unfragranced)She even unplugged my airwick the other day to see what it was mine also told me not to get cream carpets due DS as they would be no good. She has several dogs who aren’t house trained yet got the same one.I totally understand Hun and feel your pain if I know she is coming round now I hide anything I’ve recently bought.