Aibu?

[Rebekteach]

For making my little girl ask to go to the toilet at home.

Huh?

Yes, yabu.

Can she not just go by herself?
How old is she?

Yes. Unless you are at the meal table and she needs to leave.

Her home is not an institution

Yes, YABU.

She always goes in the bathroom and turns the taps on, locks the door and would be in their all day given the choice. She is 5

What? Do you mean she’s very young as needs to ask for your help or do you want her to ask permission to use the toilet in her own home?

She shouldn't have to ask.

But she could 'tell' you she's going.

I get her to ask so I can make sure she doesn't misbehave, she keeps messing up the bathroom.

That's not going to the bathroom OP. That is playing in the bathroom.

She should have autonomy over her bodily functions but isn't allowed to play with the water in the bathroom for hours on end. That is a different conversation

I like that idea Nanny.

Ausparent

She uses the excuse of needing the toilet to get in and play.

Find out what she's playing and try to redirect it into something less destructive, and explain that the bath can be dangerous if you're not there. She could get scalded or worse.

Put something over the top of the door so she can't close it fully so can't lock it.

As a dm who's ds has just flooded our downstairs today I feel your pain.

Yabu to make her ask! 5 is old enough for you to explain she needs to go toilet, flush, wash hands and leave. Warn her that if she keeps messing up the bathroom then x will happen....i.e remove screen time for a day, make her clean up the mess or remove a toy etc. Maybe move the lock higher up or put a door stop on it so she can't shut it.