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WWYD? Neighbours throwing food at windows

48 replies

TheWildOnes · 19/11/2017 07:53

Last night next door thought it would be funny to chuck food at our windows (bananas and tomatoes).
This happened a few times and once we realised what it was DH opened the back door and shouted "what the fuck are you doing" we could hear them laughing and running in each time. Our kids had just gone to bed and we're frightened by all the noise.
We called non emergency police and logged it.
The woman involved is lodging with the owner who doesn't appear to be there atm.
I'm so pissed off as it was mine and DH anniversary and we had just got back from a meal so night was ruined, my kids were scared, I've got to now scraped banana off all our back windows and door and pick up the tomatoes.
I want to scoop it all up and tip it back into there garden but realise this would probably be stupid.
Just for info we have never had any dealing with this woman, never even spoken, she is just another in a long line of dodgy characters that lodge with the owner for a few month's at a time. The only problems we have had are they hammer and drill a lot late at night up to around midnight. Ive had enough.
WWYD in this situation?
Thanks

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MyfanwyMontez · 19/11/2017 09:11

Go round there and have a word.

mando12345 · 19/11/2017 09:14

I would be careful getting the police involved as you will have to declare neighbour disputes.

PricillaQueenOfTheDesert · 19/11/2017 09:16

Get in touch with the council, they will tell you to log all such events and will be able to serve some sort of antisocial behaviour warning to your crazy neighbour. (Source : too much daytime tv)

comedycentral · 19/11/2017 09:18

Why should you have to move! Do you know if the lady owns or rents?

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TheWildOnes · 19/11/2017 09:22

The owner lives there but the "lady" involved last night was the lodger, the owner appears to be away atm, as annoying as the owner is I don't think she would be happy or involved with this.
Don't think going round will help, when DH went outside last night lodger was out there and denied doing anything and shut herself in the house, even though i saw her.

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HerOtherHalf · 19/11/2017 09:34

Don't think going round will help, when DH went outside last night lodger was out there and denied doing anything and shut herself in the house, even though i saw her.

Are you afraid of her or are you and your husband afraid of confrontation in general? You saw her with your own eyes so why are you backing down just because she denies it?

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TheWildOnes · 19/11/2017 09:43

I have massive anxiety issues and hate confrontation probably from growing up in a family where I often saw violence so I never get in arguments/disagreements. I don't know what we can do or what good it would do confronting her, he told her we saw her she still denied it.
All I can do is follow what the police said and if anything else happens call them.
And honestly yes I'm scared of her, I'm on my own with 3 kids most of the time, she appears to be a drunk who just a few days ago was out the back screaming at the owner to "let her in the fucking house" she's unpredictable and I'm scared of people like that.

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Linzerelli13 · 19/11/2017 09:46

Get your council's antisocial behaviour team involved. They have the power to issue community protection warnings/ notices under antisocial behaviour legistation. They can have conditions like not to cause noise after a certain time, not to throw things, etc. If they're not adhered to they can be taken to court and fined, etc. Sure the police will be able to advise when they pop round, but there's lots they can do to help. Keep ringing every time theres an incident and keep the pressure on the authorities to help you sort the situation out

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TheWildOnes · 19/11/2017 09:50

Thanks Linzerelli13 that's a really helpful post, will look into it.

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50ShadesOfEarlGrey · 19/11/2017 09:55

As you want to move anyway do not log anything about this officially. When you sell you will need to complete a SPIF (Sellers Property Information Form) that asks you, amongst other things, to give details of any issues with neighbours. This form is part of the legal contract for the house sale. You must be honest on the form, sellers have been taken to court for lying regarding nuisance neighbours.

For now I would try to put up with it, difficult I know, but keep thinking of the longer term goal of moving away.

nonetcurtains · 19/11/2017 10:03

Set up a security camera to catch her so she can't deny it was her. They're on offer on Wowcher at the moment and I believe they're easy to install.

eloisesparkle · 19/11/2017 10:37

Take photos before cleaning it up.

Original poster
TheWildOnes · 19/11/2017 10:52

Eloisesparkle I did remember to take pictures last night and also this morning of windows and the random food all over the floor.

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CoffeenoTea · 19/11/2017 11:14

if that was me, i would see red and push it back in there letter box along wih a few cracked eggs.

but if you have a a pcso local contact them for advice.

Nanny0gg · 19/11/2017 12:21

It's a horrible situation but a previous poster is right - you will have to declare any neighbour disputes when you sell. So think carefully as involving outside agencies can take forever anyway. Do what you need to do for the best result for you.

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TheWildOnes · 19/11/2017 13:01

I hope this was a one time thing as although it's annoying I can live with the noise but not someone throwing things at my windows. She is usually in and out of the back door quite a bit and haven't heard her go out at all today and have been in the garden with DCs, hopefully she's ashamed of herself and is staying out of the way.

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RubaDubMum89 · 19/11/2017 13:05

Honestly (because I don't think things through) I'd scrape all the shit up and push it through the letter box.

Then when the owner returns I'd explain why I did so.

How old are they? 13? -_-

MyBrilliantDisguise · 19/11/2017 13:09

I know that's tempting, but it would just escalate things. I'd get a CCTV camera and contact the council about them.

BackBoiler · 19/11/2017 13:10

It would be going through their letter box. I found waste food from a bbq in my back garden once from next door and i threw it at their windows

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TheWildOnes · 19/11/2017 13:22

I have the food in a dustpan and me and DH did joke about just tipping it back over the wall, we would just be giving there property back just like If they had kicked a ball over we would return that so it's the same thing right Grin But in all honesty we won't do it.
The woman must be 40s at least and I think although not 100% sure) a couple of the teens (all looked over 16) there were actually her kids who seem to visit for a few hours each weekend, so she was throwing stuff with her kids, that's the kind of person we're dealing with.

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TooManyPaws · 19/11/2017 13:43

Do check what services your council offers. I used to work for our nighttime noise team and we worked up to 4am. The teams who went out were all environment officers and could fine offenders etc, all the way up to ASBO; our council even managed to get an ASBO against a house owner, barring him from his property for a period because of antisocial behaviour. Police and council working together are your best bet, plus recording security camera and diary.

19lottie82 · 19/11/2017 13:54

Personally I’d go knock their door with the offending articles and ask what the hell they were playing at. People like this turn into cowards when confronted.

maras2 · 19/11/2017 13:56

Though they look squishy they must have made a hell of a noise on the windows.Angry
Nasty bastard (s )
I hate confrontation too so no real advice but Flowers for you.

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