Lights and sex

[Ribrabrob]

I don't like the light on during sex. I struggle a little bit with intimacy anyway and I also have body confidence issues which are the main reasons, however my boyfriend prefers the light - or at least the tv light (who said romance is dead ) - on. He says he prefers to be able to see the person he's having sex with, otherwise there is no point.

Aibu to not want the light on and to think that it's actually more 'romantic' in the dark? Aibu to request lights off at least sometimes? The lights have been on but I'm not really enjoying it as much. It makes me feel a little self conscious.

I guess I know that I am a bit unreasonable to let body confidence issues get in the way of my sex life, but that's something I'm not really sure how to resolve.

I prefer having the light on, otherwise I tend to get a bit lost in my own thoughts sometimes which just detracts from the whole thing.

Would candlelight be a compromise? Low and flattering.

I understand how you feel, but I also feel sad that you don't understand the fact that your boyfriend loves what he sees when the lights are on. He thinks you're sexy and desirable just the way you are.

Get some candle holders and tealights. It's much more subtle and romantic.

I was like you and DH was like your partner. DH helped me....he built me up, bolstered me....constantly admired me....it helped a lot. Now I don't mind light