Splitting the bill. What should I do?

[Embarrassed18]

I am cringing.

Went out for dinner and drinks with 3 friends. One doesn’t drink and is veggie.

We ordered 1 platter of hams and another of cheeses to share, plus individual main courses.

When the bill came, someone suggested splitting it. As I’d had 2 large glasses of wine, I went along with it unthinkingly.

Got home, sobered up a bit and realised non drinking veggie friend would have ended up paying nearly £20 more than she should have for what she actually ate and drank.

I texted her immediately to say how embarrassed I was about it. She texted back to say “don’t worry! I enjoyed the night out!”

I’m seeing her later in the week for a wedding.
WIBU to give her £20???
Or is that really gauche? I feel bad for not being quicker off the mark and hate the thought that she might have felt taken advantage of.

The other two think I should let it go, that there’ll be other opportunities to pay her back such as coffee here and there.

WWYD?

ok, I’ll suggest coffee and cake sometime, and just shout it no fuss.
I suppose it’s because she’s a relatively new friend and didn't want her to get the impression that I was being grabby!

I think she would have appreciated that you noticed and apologised, it's just the acknowledgement that's needed sometimes. Just buy her a coffee at some point. It's really nice that you thought to get in touch.

She’s probably not that annoyed, but buy her a couple of drinks at the wedding and say “for the meat platter.” You sound like a decent person and like you wouldn’t have done it out of malice, so it would be nice to address it for her sake but I doubt she’s that irked.

I am like your friend, and honestly I prefer paying extra, to the other tortuous option of calculating who had what.

I wouldn’t want the cash but would be pleased at being bought a random cake/coffee.

I'm a veggie non drinker and I'd be grateful you noticed this. I hate splitting the bill for this reason.

Treat her. Take her out for lunch