Wedding Rant

[Justkeepgoingandsmile]

I am so annoyed. My DD got married this week. My DH and I completely funded and organised the whole wedding right down to paying for the grooms kilt. The only thing the Grooms parents needed to do was turn up at 2pm. At 2pm everyone was ready, guests all seated, bride and groom ready. The grooms parents, sister and grandparent were missing. When they arrived a 2:10pm the grooms dad was wearing jeans and a t-shirt, carrying his kilt bag. The Gran was also carrying her wedding outfit. The venue is only 15 minutes away from where they live.

I was angry at the time but just kept everyone calm and we started 30-40 minutes late. The timing for everything was knocked out, fortunately the Master of Ceremony took control and seamed to get it all to work.

Now I am back home I am getting angrier and angrier about them stressing out the Bride/groom and messing up the wedding. How hard is it to turn up on time to your only sons wedding. AIBU? I know I need to let it go.

YANBU sorry they caused a nightmare on your daughters special day. Did your Daughter and SIL notice? Hopefully they didn’t, and are still on cloud nine- they don’t really need to know.

(Speaking from experience) there is nothing worse than getting the “debrief” after a magical day on all the things you didn’t notice

They were incredibly rude and disrespectful. It doesn't matter who paid for the wedding.

My inlaws were horrid at my wedding, barely spoke/didn't speak to me, left early etc.

Criticised everything post wedding, having had a run in with SIL a fortnight before the wedding who had caused a whole host of issues it just carried on - I wasn't welcome at MIL birthday 5 months later!

It took me a long time to forget, not 100% sure I have completely forgiven yet nearly 5 years on.

What JustMuddling said

I wouldn’t have waited for them. My BIL and SIL were late for my wedding, and we went ahead without them. Their DD unfortunately missed out on being flower girl as a result, but it was entirely their responsibility to get there on time. They are notorious for being late, hence we didn’t sit around waiting

Be nice to son in law, avoid them. Anger is wasted here, just judge them and feel sorry for him having to grow up in their family.

They were incredibly rude. Why did ye hold up the ceremony for them?The essential people (bride & groom) were there.

Everyone present would have seen that they are dicks that held up the wedding.
That is your revenge.

I'm sorry I would have just started without them and get someone to tell them to go on to the reception ahead of everyone.
Totally rude.
You are not being unreasonable.
But try focus on the main thing. Your daughter and her husband will have had a wonderful day.

Sooo rude but don’t let them take away from what I’m sure was a magical day. You won’t have to have much to do with them going forward.

Maybe they waited as the groom wanted his parents however rude they are there for his wedding ? Not that hard to work out, surely ?

It was rude and disrespectful. I would also very livid. Tey nit to blame the groom or moan about it too much to your DD. Focus on the lovely day. How happy and gorgeous she looked, don't let the bride and groom know you felt their wedding was ruined. Rant to your DHIN private and never, ever wait for that ungrateful family again

My SIL would want his parents to be present and initially they were going to be 10 minutes late. I had expected them to be dressed and ready when they arrived, not carrying bags with wedding clothes.

My poor SIL was stood at the front of the ceremony waiting and my DD was angry that her future DH would be getting stressed, he didn't need this. At the time and since I have played it down to everyone except my DH and sister, both have had full rant mode.

My SIL did not pick his parents, it's not his fault.

I need to move on and let karma sort them out.

The rest of the day was lovely and just what my DD and SIL had hoped for, it was beautiful.

YANBU to be annoyed, it was incredibly rude of them. As a PP has said, don't make a big deal of it to your DD at any point. If she brings it up again, perhaps downplay it, something along the lines of 'yes, it was really rude of them, but it didn't spoil your amazing day'.

I know you didn't ask for advice, but this is AIBU .

UANBU (but I got married without my MIL there and didn't notice at all until someone told me after. She turned up late and my SIL was quite annoyed that we hadn't waited)

They behaved very badly, but it was very public so everyone there would be very clear about what had happened and how badly they behaved.

Dont waste your energy on getting wound up by it now though. It is not going to make a difference to them and if you let it, that will become the only big memory you have of the day.