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Work Colleague

110 replies

snash12 · 17/11/2017 15:49

I know someone posted here earlier that this isn't a forum for employee / employer issues but I literally want to smash my stapler into my face right now, repeatedly.

I have one work colleague who just takes the piss all day every day. I genuinely wonder if she does any work at all. She is excellent at appearing busy / flustered when anyone asks her to do anything.

My main issue is her phone calls to and from her husband. On average i'd say it's anywhere from 10-20 calls per day for maybe 5-10 minutes or the occasional 30 minute call. She doesn't hide it, go outside, move to another room for these calls so it is so distracting.

Its infuriating for me because I sit right near her and its otherwise a fairly quiet office.

Because they speak so often they have NOTHING to say to one another. So I have a big chunk of my day trying to block out

"Yeeeah"
"No"
"How was the traffic" "have you had lunch" followed by 5 minutes of byes .
"alright then darling, I better get back to it.... what'?" and then it starts all over again
"okay then baby love you, love you, ... what?" starts again

WWYD - just tell her to shut up?! I've tried ear phones with music but she has a very loud laugh so it doesn't often work.

Has anyone been in this position? The bosses are fully aware because she often answers the calls in front of them or is on the phone to her husband when they enter the room. I guess it doesn't bother them so there isn't much point in complaining.

OP posts:
Gemini69 · 17/11/2017 17:00

AAwww no don't feel crap OP.. it's bothering your work environment.. it's affecting your ability to focus and concentrate on the tasks in hand... the Boss has responded poorly Flowers

Roussette · 17/11/2017 17:01

Weak weak weak. He's a prize tool

Go back to him on Monday, ask him what he intends to do, tell him it impacts on your work and is very distracting. He surely cannot just stick his head in the sand.

Namechangetempissue · 17/11/2017 17:03

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mobile_phone_jammer

Don't really though, they are not strictly legal....

snash12 · 17/11/2017 17:07

I really hope he does actually think about it and do something. I find it frustrating because in our monthly meeting a couple of weeks ago he was saying how we are down on last year and need to up our game etc.

OP posts:
morningconstitutional2017 · 17/11/2017 17:08

If it annoys you it must annoy everyone else in the office too. Could you persuade any of your colleagues to also complain? Your boss really has to do something about it instead of being so weak. Do staff have an annual appraisal?

snash12 · 17/11/2017 17:10

@morning

Its a weird layout in our office there are 7 rooms which can take between 2 and 4 desk in each.

Me and the husband caller are in one room on our own but it is also a walkthrough to other rooms.

We are supposed to but dont have appraisals.

OP posts:
snash12 · 17/11/2017 17:11

He just emailed me (we're both still in the office)

"Snash,

How about we move your desk to another office?

Let me know on Monday

Thanks

Boss

OP posts:
Mumof41987 · 17/11/2017 17:12

He sounds pathetic. She has some kind of hold over him it seems ?? I can't believe he just lets her do as she pleases

snash12 · 17/11/2017 17:12

I'm going home to cry and drink wine!

OP posts:
Mumof41987 · 17/11/2017 17:12

But that's not addressing the problem ?? She will still take the piss

Mumof41987 · 17/11/2017 17:12

He is pathetic

Roussette · 17/11/2017 17:13

Could you ask to move? If you say to weakboss that you want to up your game like he asked at the meeting but you are so distracted by the phone calls, chances are your ouput will go down, he has to listen

Roussette · 17/11/2017 17:13

Write back... only if YOU move in and sit next to continual calls! This needs addressing.

AlternativeTentacle · 17/11/2017 17:13

HI Boss.

Sounds like it would be good for me, but she is still wasting hours of your time doing nothing. You are the boss. You need to manage her.

Motoko · 17/11/2017 17:17

Well, he's too wet to speak to her about it, so I'd take him up on the offer of a move.

Ultimately, if he's bought into the company, and productivity is down due to her not working for several hours a day, it's him that's going to lose out.

Pouncival · 17/11/2017 17:18

I'd take the offer of moving desk.

I know it's not the point, but he isn't going to deal with her.

oldmum22 · 17/11/2017 17:18

Dear Mr Manager, Your Get Out of Jail Plan
We have had complaints from customers/staff members( or whoever is likely to be making contact) who are trying to contact the office and are experiencing delays in being answered on the landline. As a trial period up until Christmas, we are going to implement a policy of no private calls to be made/received during work hours on either landline or mobiles. We will review the situation after Christmas . From 1st January 2018, all staff will be obliged to work ALL their contracted hours. If there is an emergency, then please speak with me. Enjoy your weekend .
Mr Manager
Hope that helps your thinking process over the weekend

ilovesooty · 17/11/2017 17:18

Why don't you have appraisals if you're supposed to? Do you have specific targets to meet on an individual basis?

FlashTheSloth · 17/11/2017 17:19

Reply that that doesn't solve the problem at all, why should you move and as the boss, he needs to enforce a no personal calls in business time, unless it is an emergency. Given he has walked in when she is doing it, there is no reason at all to think she has been complained about.

What a spineless boss!

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 17/11/2017 17:19

Well, at least he's suggested moving you away from her, which suggest he values YOU, even if he is too much of a wimp to tackle her about it. What a shame, after you got up the courage to do it as well. At least be proud of yourself for that. Enjoy the Wine!!!

Chrys2017 · 17/11/2017 17:21

Ask to be moved to a position where you can't hear her... or for her to be moved to a spot nearer the boss!

RebootYourEngine · 17/11/2017 17:21

I would move. I would write Tentacles reply.

Chrys2017 · 17/11/2017 17:23

Oh... I see you've already been offered that option. Well just take it. If your boss doesn't want to act on the information about your colleague that's not your problem.

ReanimatedSGB · 17/11/2017 17:23

Oldmum's letter is great - send him that. Mrs Cowbag won't be able to prove it was you that complained...

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 17/11/2017 17:25

Omg what a spineless bellend!

What she is actually doing in terms of work? Is she doing the same thing as you? Because this is the sort of thing you’d expect to be brought up at appraisal time - that she’s severely slacking compared to her colleagues (although of course a good manager would address a LONG time before year end!

I think tbh you’d be better doing it it formally so you have a paper trail. Set up a 15 minute or half hour meeting for Monday morning. Ask him how he’s going to support you doing your job because the constant distraction is now becoming unworkable. If you are in the same position, ask him what your KPIs are and if you’re hitting them working flat out. Try and keep it as a ‘how can management support me in doing my best work’ rather than addressing her. With a bit of luck though they’ll realise they’re losing 15 man hours to idle chit chat with her and will address it.

I would take the office move but not without the other things.