Who is BU me or xh

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I discovered a few weeks ago that xh has been using an unsuitable car seat for dc. Dc outgrew this car seat over 18 months ago. He cant even sit back fully, has to sit at an angle, and the straps do not even go over his shoulders, they hang under his arms. I am disgusted that he has been travelling on dangerous roads like this for so long. After asking him 4 times to get a new one he has agreed. He bought a second hand one. I have previously explained this is not recommended and not safe. When I reminded him of this he changed his story and said actually his sibling had given it to him. Siblings child is only slightly older and barely taller than our dc. So he wouldn't be moving on to the next group seat yet. Obviously he is lying so he won't have to spend 35 quid on his children.

Aibu to insist he buys a new seat. He's not stuck for money, regular holidays and all designer clothes for himself.

Radio I agree. Common sense has to apply. I don't agree with a lot of what he does, but as long as the dcs are safe I keep my nose out.

But by continuing to use a car seat that the child cannot even fit into for two years shows that he is not taking safety seriously. As their parent surely I have a responsibility to make sure they are safe?

Fire suit- thankfully the law isn’t in your side in this matter then. You HAVE to use car seats and or boasters for children because it is deemed unsafe not to - that’s until they’re 12 years old or 135 centimetres tall, whichever comes first. That isn’t mumsnet opinion. That’s the governments law and all of the professionals and studies that go with that.

Op- yanbu

When he's in charge he decide's what's safe. What you think doesn't matter

So if he decides it’s safe for them to ride a bike in the road with no helmet or not wear sunscreen when it’s boiling hot, that’s fine too? Just because he’s in charge? There are basic minimum standards that need to met by anyone in charge of children and a safe, legal car seat is one of them. You sound like you have a massive chip on your shoulder tbh

I'm puzzled by this, do most people have different car seats for his and her car? Surely the easy thing is to transfer the child's usual car seat to dad's car? and drop it back off with the child?

Mismayhem, some seats are very difficult to move though?