I need some perspective please. A few months ago, my new DH's child who is an adult with a child of her own, physically assaulted me and I narrowly avoided a serious facial disfigurement. My Dh protected me so no physical harm done. The child went to police and complained that he was the attacker. It all got very unpleasant, he was detained for many hours and released without charge. Cause he'd done nothing wrong. He then had an injunction served but he challenged the lies and it was withdrawn and said child got a ticking off about wasting police time and contempt of court. They have no contact as he says he can't forgive her and I will never have anything to do with her again. All this over jealousy and the perception of loss of control. However, DH desperately misses his granddaughter and has resumed weekly contact by taking the child out for a few hours. I'm very pleased as he's a doting granddad and frankly, the little girl could do with some of his influence in her life.
I feel really uneasy as DH doesn't speak much about the contact with his daughter though. In fact he closes down the discussion and I don't find it very reassuring. One of his close friends of 20 years who has witnessed his daughters appalling behaviour over all these years says it's the start of her trying to manipulate him and wheedle her way back in. I've no right to interfere in his relationship with his daughter and I never have done. I've said if he chooses to start contact with her again, that's his choice, saying it is one thing, I feel it will put a wedge in between us though. My own three kids and wider family have been put through hell over her attacking me. My DH's family have cut all ties with his daughter.
I feel that my marriage would be compromised if he chose to resume relations with her.
Aibu to feel the way I do? I hate that I can't forgive what she has put her father through