To consider spending Christmas at home

[Leslieknope123]

Every Christmas we spend the week before with in-laws and week of xmas with mine which swaps each year. Now we have a nearly 5 month old baby who is NOT a good sleeper, especially in new places.

The traveling is bad enough let alone with a baby and is always rushed due to how much time me and my husband get time off work each! Anyway, I mentioned my worry of rushing the only chunk of time we have together and suggested we see how this year goes and possibly do xmas as a family of 3 next year and spread our time off more so we can see our families in less of a rush and stuff! But my husband got really annoyed and offended by it even though it was a casual suggestion/made a point if saying " maybe we'll think about it" ie. Nothing final or anything.

AIBU to suggest that or is he being unreasonable getting annoyed with me?

XxxxX

It's never unreasonable to just suggest something. Why did he dislike the idea so much?

of course your not

have the christmas You want as ifou dont put your foot down now you will be doing what you have been doing in 5yrs time

and as children get older i think they prefer Christmas at home but of course the odd Christmas at others is fine to

youmust be exhausted when you get back

A new baby is the perfect opportunity to carve out the exact Christmas you dream of.
Christmas at home, invite dps /ils at your desire (or not!).
Tell dh to grow a pair, you are a family now and come first before either of your dps in your plans.

i used to spend a week with my husband's family over christmas and this was on the understanding that once we had kids of our own we would stay at home.

GPs were then invited to spend few days over christmas period at our house,. Can u do this? its nice to have your kids having christmas at home building up your own family memories

kids are part of a larger family and christmas is a big deal.

He doesn't like change/ feels a little like Idon't want to spend time with his family (even though this suggestion means the same for my family too )
Sadly we don't have the space for people to come here :( xxx

Usually once children come along especially in the early years you tend to spend Christmas at home as it’s too much faffin around visiting family, and also the kiddie want to open and play with their presents.

Maybe compromise and just visit each set of grandparents for a day so you don’t have to stay over if that’s possible. But I made it clear that once we had children we would be having it as a family and not spending our time on the road visiting relatives after all Christmas is tiring at the best of times.

Christmas is a family time. Families are more than Mum, dad and baby.

carve out the exact Christmas you dream of.
You want as ifou dont put your foot down

Ah the old disposable father thing again. Penis owner has no opinion

We have the ironclad reason to stay at home this year of Xmas Day being my due date with DC2. SIL has accepted it now but still put on press sure earlier to say that being with DH's side of the family is near enough to the hospital so we may as well stay with them.

So we are hosting PIL and SIL as it's their "turn" this year. Next year we will be in a new house and we are staying there, I'm determined!

Splinterz I meant them as a couple decide not just op. But her dh needs reminding he made vows to op not his dm . Her requests come first over his dm surely?

Tell him fine but he’s doing the nights while you’re away.

Would I hell spend 2 weeks of previous holidays living in other houses and that’s even without kids.

*Precious

So you're stuck in the same routine til the kids leave home in 20 years? Fuck that, start your own Christmas traditions. I cannot understand these people who think it's ok to trek a young baby and stay away from home at Christmas. Aren't you allowed your own Christmas?

Did your DH spent all his Christmas with his GPs as a child? If not it might be worth make him reflect about it.
YANBU, it's hard enough taking care of a baby.

@Splinterz I never said my husband was in the wrong and that family was just us 3 but I'm saying it's going to be a struggle to spend all our time off traveling with a baby etc....