To want to give bullies a good talking to?

[cornflake81]

My son is in year 6 and is small for his age. He's 10 and looks about 8. He's 135cm.
He's never really been bullied about his height until now.

The bullying and tormenting is coming from girls and not boys. He plays loads of sport and his boy buddies completely accept him and never tease him about his height.

He told me today that he is being tormented by a group of 5 or 6 girls (in his class) - they've even made up a song about his height - that's he's a little man etc and pursue him about the playground chanting it. They also mock him openly about his school work - he's doing well at school the same as everyone else, nothing that makes him stand out. He is feeling very down and upset about it and he keeps asking me if I love him xx 😩of course I say yes and reassure him xx

I'm so upset - he's a kind and reasonable boy and just gets on with his own stuff - doesn't bother others and has got plenty of friends. I know exactly who the girls are and they are all complete brats.

I'm going to tell his class teacher in the hope they can nip it in the bud but in the meantime I am so angry I feel like talking to these girls myself and telling them back off/embarrass them in front of their friends.

I know that won't help but I'm finding it so hard to deal with. I'm also worrying that telling his teacher will make it worse for him.

Really don't know what to do. Any advice would be really appreciated.
Xxx

It must be difficult knowing that your DS is being picked on but I wouldn’t recommend approaching these girls yourself. It could be seen as very intimidating and make things worse for your son.

I would speak to the school and let them deal with the girls as there best equipped to do so.

Usually at that age male to female and female to male bullying is based on trying to get some attention and start a bit of flirting so maybe he should just style it out and take it as an invitation to engage in some light banter along the lines of "alright ladies stop trying to make me notice you I get the message, you're all in love". This usually makes year 6 collapse into embarrassed giggles and denials and will change the focus away from his height.

If that fails can he call on his male friends to back him up and start chanting "hags" back at them?

I’d speak to the teachers about it.

If its happening in school let the school deal with it. If you try to intimidate anyone elses child, their parents are going to react VERY negatively towards you. Even if their children are in the wrong, it wont end well and you will massivly loose the moral high ground.

It really shouldnt make things worse for him, as I imagine they will get a stern telling off and the teacher will keep an eye out. But whatever you do, and I know its hard as its so emotive when someone is upsetting your child, do not approach the children themselves. If you know the parents of the children by all means try to have a chat about it with the mum / dad, but dont get the kids involved.

It probably means one or all of them fancy him - its the only way kids know how to flirt. The PP suggestion above about turning it around could well work rather than him walking away shyly.