Ready in every which way to have a baby

[fleurjasmine]

But I'm single.

I am starting to feel quite stressed and worried about this. Online dating doesn't seem to work for me, and I never meet anyone in 'real life' (I don't know why.) I would struggle to have a child alone due to childcare fees and mortgage.

I don't know! Maybe it won't happen for me, but I feel unhappy at this thought.

How does online dating go wrong for you, and do you make an effort to participate in activities where you might meet someone?

Not really. I'm a bit disillusioned

My experience is that you do have to put yourself out there and make an effort. As you get older the demographics work against you.

I don't know how old you are, but I got married at 36 and had my kids at 38 and 40, so it is possible. But it's not going to fall into your lap.

No ... I know, but then it doesn't seem to happen anyway. Sometimes it can be quite hard not to feel disillusioned and dejected, wondering what on earth is wrong with me that makes me invisible to the opposite sex!

How are old are you? I wouldn't worry. Try to enjoy now 🌸

36

fleurjasmine oh you're fine! Most of my mates had their first at 40/41 😊 Enjoy yourself and be happy 🌸🌺🌸

I know the worry of childcare/mortgage but if you could do it alone... do it. Worth it :)

At 36 you still have time, don't panic just yet. You could make more of an effort to meet people. Or you could look at your options for having a child as a single woman. Alternatively you could just focus on you, enjoy your life, enjoy your friends, build your career, because when you do have a baby there will less time for these things. Only you can really know which is the right option. Are you sure you're not just broody? That sounds patronising but I don't mean it like that, and I know being broody can be all consuming, it's often not a case of 'just a little bit' broody. I occasionally get an irrational need to have a baby that clouds all sensible judgment, but it always passes.

Good luck whatever you decide!

I would persevere with the online dating. Go on lots of dates. You have time but you do need to get a move on so need to be proactive.

I met my husband on Match August 2013, moved in July 2014, engaged December 2014, married May 2015, first baby January 2016, second baby due December 2017. I was 32 when I met my husband and will be 37 when this baby is born. We did things at a pretty rapid pace I'd say.

It's not really online dating, as no one ever wants to date me!

I need to lose some weight first I suppose. I wouldn't fancy me at the moment!