To want to throw something at DH?

[Hekabe]

Our 4 month old DC is waking up 4-5 a night. I am the one that gets up. This week DC woke ON THE HOUR during the night.
I take over on the whole because DH works.

I also work...

DH commiserated my getting upbhourly with the fact me getting up gave him a disturbed night... but offered to be on night duty last night so I could sleep. So at 3.50 I dealt with child as he wasn't up. At 5.50 he rolled over and said " your turn".

AIBU to throw a saucepan at him?

I used to do about 99.9% of the night wake ups. I remember at its worst point my dd woke up every 45 mins or so throughout the night. I always used to listen with my chin on the floor as my (now ex) would tell all and sundry how tough the "sleep deprivation" was for him. He'd moved to the spare room as soon as he could and was getting full nights' sleep. It still makes me roll my eyes remembering the sympathy he would get, even though it was years ago now and he's a long time ex!

Don't wake the baby! Pans are way too noisy (altho frying pans make an amazing TWANG noise as they bounce 😏). I say wait til he is snoring & smother him - after tying his hands to the bedpost of course, can't have him struggling!

I was a SM with DC1, who never slept more than 20 minutes at a time, & never more than an hour a day. I would have made an amazing extra for Walking Dead.
This time I am hoping that OH will do the odd night or early morning; he's pretty good. Your OH is being a nube.

Ha! Thanks ladies. You've made me laugh.

MakeItRain... I was doing a hella lotta eye rolling too!

I also get the "yeah, he sleeps really well thanks!" No. No.. you just didn't wake up.

We're obviously just built better at this job.

FYI I am self employed but I also have office hours on location to keep due to the nature of my job, so lie ins not frequent delights, nor naps sadly! He works Saturdays too.

DH getting better (ish) with sleep... though keeping me busy hjibsbweek with poonamis exploding everywhere. Yay!

Haha!! I meant DC better with sleep. Freudian there...

So at 3.50 I dealt with child as he wasn't up. At 5.50 he rolled over and said " your turn".

Why didn't you wake him up at 3.50?

We're obviously just built better at this job.

I think you need to stop covering for him when it's turn otherwise there's no need for him to step up.

Omg. Still shocked at people who say this is women’s work

Seriously people still think this way
Shocked

We are not built better at this job! It's just a very unpleasant job so (many) men try to get out of it however they can.

I did have from stbxh at one stage "Oh well I'd better get a full night sleep if I'm going to be with them all day" when he was taking a day off with sick dc and i was working, whereas I'm sure his earlier position was "I need the full night sleep because I have to work

Ah yes I see how that works! To be fair I don't believe this is women's work, DH is. Marvellous father but I can we we have different skills to bring to parenting and that's fine.

And yes, it is more important that he sleeps... in our household. Because he pays the mortgage and quite a lot else. So I really need him to be on good form! Financially speaking that makes sense. And is how we operate as a team.