To keep my son at home tomorrow

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We’ve moved and he’s in a new School (year 6). He made friends straight away however he now only has one friend as he says the other boys play too rough - he was pushed into a fence leaving 5 bruises as part of this “playing”. God knows where the teachers are at this point.

Today he’s come home saying a boy has threatened to “give him a beating” tomorrow. Also calling him a wimp and jelly arms when he walked away and refused to engage with this child.

I don’t want to send him in. I’m waiting for a call from his teacher who may call me this evening if her meeting finishes early.

AIBU to want to keep him home until this is sorted homeschool him and go and punch this kid in the face for being a mini twat

Oh piss off with the state-school snobbery.

OP, good for you insisting on a meeting and a proper discussion. The teacher sounds ineffectual.

Sure he'll be ok
Are they going to speak to boy involved he probably is known to they in any case

test for school my kids high school spent 20 mins at first meeting telling everyone bullying is out and reiterated it several times

Feeling better now the initial shock that someone wants to harm my baby is wearing off!

Last week they received an outstanding ofsted rating and it says this about bullying. Seems promising

Op you Ds sounds very like mine . I took mine to a marshal arts class that also included self defence . I think it gave him confidence . I also would look on website for anti bullying policy . Print it off if you can find it or ask for a copy

I'm so sorry to hear this has happened to your son OP, it must be awful for you both.

If this was one of mine I would most definitely keep them at home tomorrow. Trust your instincts.

It's anti bullying week so you have a great shoe in for the teachers to do some year group exercises on bullying. There are clips on news round, websites etc with resources.

Can they ask a child your son likes to act as a buddy and look out for him at lunch times
Would you child consider sitting in a room with the bullies and talking about it.
When my son was bullied the school did whole class stuff, restorative justice and a buddy. The bullying stopped.

Didn’t know it was anti bullying week, I’ll slip that in tomorrow when I speak to him.

I don’t think it’s at the point where I need to sit in his lessons, this child is in another class and they don’t mix except lunch times.

I think I’ll look into self defence classes too, i think I’m more worried than he is about all of this so it would definitely ease my mind

I was wondering how it went today?

@grasspigeons

Surprisingly well. Baby developed a tummy bug so I couldn’t go in. He was happy to go in by cab, met at office by deputy head.

Got a call at break time with an update. Spoke to the boys involved, they were very apologetic when the teacher explained how their words had made DS feel like he didn’t want to attend school. They were given a lecture on bullying - I was sent the slides, as were their parents. The slides were very to the point, they even showed the link between bullying and suicide.

DS was happy to walk home rather than be picked up and he said he feels fine at the moment but if there are any issues he will go straight to the teacher.

The boys involved are now being monitored by the senior leadership team and have some school community service to do.

They also said they are going to contact the police to come in and have a chat with ks2 to explain that threats and acts of violence will get them into trouble.

Must say I’m impressed with the lengths they have gone to. Hopefully that’s the end of it and DS can get back to enjoying School

Glad you’ve had a good outcome - are you aware you’ve mentioned your child’s name in your post?

@Chocolatecake12 crap. Thanks I’ll sort that now!

I'm glad they responded well. fingers crossed it keeps steady.

Fantastic..It shows bullying can be tackled head on.

Glad things improved for your DS