To leave DD upstairs for quiet time?

[bettydraper31]

DD is just over two, stopped napping (her choice) for quite a few months now. I put some music on in her room to listen to, and she just plays in bed/reads her books. Am I mean leaving her up there for 40 mins or so while I eat my lunch and catch up on some tv? I feel mean but she needs time to chill and so do I! Thanks x

If she's happy with it that's fine. I wouldn't have got away with that, my children were very demanding! Independent play is good and should be encouraged!

Dd1 stopped napping before she was 18 months She just would not shut her eyes we used to have quiet time it was bliss I would leave her if you know she is fine.

I am so jealous! Totally fine. If she is happy with it then crack on!

No of course you're not mean or wrong.

Everyone needs a bit of 'me time' and 'down time.' Adults/mums/dads/childfree folk/children. We would all go bonkers if we didn't.

It's no worse than sitting kiddies in front of a 90 minute film to entertain them/keep them quiet/get a break.

Kids (even the best behaved ones) can be hard work sometimes, and there is nothing shameful about wanting a bit of time to yourself.

If my kid would do this I would 1million percent go for it
I would probably set up his camera monitor thing just for my peace of mind personally!
As it turns out he cannot seem to be apart from me for even a second whilst I have a wee
Very jealous 🙈🙈

I think it's fine, but I think you should both eat lunch together.It seems a bit antisocial

Dd would have got up to no good we had quiet time in the livingroom.

What did she get up to? Just chatter etc?
Yes, she was allowed to take any quiet toys up with her. She would have books, lego, colouring etc. occasionally she fell asleep, but not often.
I started it when she gave up her nap as I was pregnant and very sick at the time, and she asked to continue it even once she was at school she'd ask for it at the weekends.
When dd2 came along I'd time it so dd2 went down at the end of her quiet time so we had some time alone too.

I like my time on my own, as does dh, and dd1 is the same. Dd2 does not so I didn't do it with her as a general rule.

DD is 10 and still likes some quite time after lunch at the weekend or during the holidays if we stay at home. It gives us all time to recharge and relax.

When she was 3 I had her on the sofa with me but made clear it is not playtime. I would put music or later a story tape on and she would nod off once in a while as well. At one point she took herself into her room.

They need to learn that parents have the right to some quite time, it is not lazy, even non-napping toddlers need a break. In our house it could be anything from 30 minute to 1 1/2 hours (if she nodded off)

My 2.5 year old has quiet time every afternoon for up to two hours. He plays, looks at books, sings and sometimes has a nap.
At weekends my 5 year old has quiet time too if we are home.
I think it’s great for them, really encourages independent play, both of them have amazing imagination and are great at entertaining themselves, some quiet times they sneak into the same room to play which I don’t mind as long as they don’t fight.

Thanks everyone. Firecracker- we usually do and we all eat dinner together as a family but since becoming pregnant I just don't fancy eating at the same times as her during the day so it's a bit tricky. I still sit with her at the table :) x