So... my boyfriend has had a lot of sexual partners. Hundreds. He used to be into swinging and sex clubs. I found (old) adverts advertising his 'services to women' and videos of him online (broke me to watch, but I did it anyway - several times!). He was very active in this 'sphere'. He assures me that those days are over and that he hasn't done anything like that since 2012. But, I keep thinking that if he was used to swapping partners and having wild sex and orgies and all the rest of it, how is he going to be satisfied with just me? I've become quite obsessed with it... trying to find old traces of what he was up to online, looking at the London swingers clubs online and just getting very down about it all. We've been together for two years, but I still can't shake it. We don't live together. I keep wondering what he's up to all the time in the city. I think I'm maybe being very naive. I'd like to believe him when he says it's over, but am I being stupid? He's a loving, caring man, but I worry that I'll bore him in bed and that he will just find it so easy to go elsewhere. It really is unhealthy that I can't shake this feeling. I've had so many discussions with him about it and I daren't bring it up again. I'm quite traditional. There's no way I could swap partners or ever go to one of these sex clubs. I know he hasn't asked me, but how can I trust him? The feeling of jealousy about his past is quite overpowering and I don't know what to do about it. I feel crappy about myself when I compare myself to the type of pornstar women he's been with in the past. They all seem to be mega hot women with toned figures and handcuffs and whips. They film themselves and put it out there for the whole world to see. My past is so far removed from any of that. I've always been one man-one woman. I don't think I'm going to get over it. Has anyone got any advice on how I can stop being so unreasonable! Or am I being reasonable to be weirded out by it all?