To want to rant about facebook/instagram performance parenting

[Mumsiemummy1]

I'll start of by saying I don't really know why I am even on social media as I don't really like it, but like many of us I am.

Now that I am a mum myself, and Manu of my friends and acquaintances have become mum's, it seems to have turned into a platform to show off your exceptional parenting skills, or your genius child.

This morning I have seen:
Mum who constantly posts about how her 3 months old loooooves so reading (cue endless pictures of baby propted up holding his own book)
Mum going on about how she is the ONLY mum at the soft play actually playing with their child while the rest of us apparently sit around on our phones
Mum who only posted celeb style, no face pictures of baby.
Mum cooking breakfast whilst simultaneously pumped breast milk (who the fuck asks someone to take that picture?!)

Just me that finds it soooo cringe and annoying?!

Meh. They're happy. Happy is good.

Unfollow them if you don't want to see it.

It's just a way to relieve the tedium.

It is cringed. I have a mum friend who makes sure her aga is in the background of all her photos

Get off social media then.

@thequeenofwands are they happy though...I think the opposite

Cringey, even!

The reading 3 month old made me laugh! What a twat

People post all kinds of crap on facebook etc just ignore it ?

I think it shows that they're not happy to be honest!

YANBU

They are all knobs showing off.

I am on my knees with exhaustion which I agree might colour how I feel, but there is one twat (my SIL) who posts almost every single morning how her 6 week old slept 7-6 and she’s got such a well behaved baby.

Fuck off.

Yes you are lucky and it must be delightful to get so much sleep, but there’s no need to be so smug knowing full well there are lots of parents struggling. And it probably won’t last so just enjoy it and don’t feel the need to show off, because you will look like an idiot when regression or teething or illness kicks in

I’d assume the reading 3 month old was meant as a joke?

The reading 3 month old was clearly tongue in cheek.

No-one claims a 3 month old baby has actually been taught to independently read a book.

I think you need to see these things for the throwaway posts/photos they are OP and just hide them from your newsfeed.

And I say that as someone who never posted my kid's pics on Facebook, as I don't think it's something parents should do without their kid's permission.

YANBU. Ghastly look-at-me-I-need-to-brag-and-make-myself-feel-better-by-portraying-my-life-as-oh-so-wonderful-to-you-all behaviour.

@nerrsnerr no not a joke, new picture new book most weeks 😂

piggle it's her timeline though and her baby.

Why shouldn't she post about something that makes her so happy?

I get it's exhausting when you have a baby who doesn't sleep through (my eldest didn't until he was nearly 2 years old).

But everyone considered every single person on their friend list, they'd never post anything...not even holiday photos because there'll be people who can't afford a holiday.

A friend on Facebook (otherwise nice lass) posted last week that her 5 month old hadn’t worn a nappy in the daytime since being 2 months old because she ‘signs’ when she wants to go and so they have just put her over the potty. No accidents apparently.

Okaaaaaay.

So unfollow them?

It really is that easy.

At least these are babies, I have someone on mine who still does this with her teenager.
I threaten to do the same to mine as punishment. She soon behaves.......

Why shouldn't she post about something that makes her so happy?

She can post what she wants but it doesn’t make her look nice. Her wording is smug and she’s rubbing it in the faces of some of her friends and family who she is aware are struggling with sleep deprivation.

Yesterday was something like:

I’ve got such a well behaved baby. Yet again he’s slept all night without so much as a murmur from 7 till 6. Mummy is so proud to have such a good sleeper our routine is clearly working wonders

It’s not necessary! It makes people look ridiculous beaming with pride about a good nights sleep.

A friend on Facebook (otherwise nice lass) posted last week that her 5 month old hadn’t worn a nappy in the daytime since being 2 months old because she ‘signs’ when she wants to go and so they have just put her over the potty. No accidents apparently.

Bet her carpets smell of wee.

HowDoYouWantToDoThis
So unfollow them?
It really is that easy.

I never understand posts like this. People are allowed to have opinions about what they observe in life. If the OP had come on and asked "how can I never see X again?" then posts like this would be appropriate, but how does the OP unfollowing her friends help? The posts which she finds cringeworthy still exist and since her post wasn't about the pain of seeing them, but about their existence, unfollowing doesn't change anything. And then by unfollowing she doesn't get to see the posts she wants to see. So rather a pointless suggestion.

Get rid I did about 6months into having my wee one. Have not regretted it one bit. Seriously just do it it’s liberating. I still have messenger app so my friends text or message when they want to chat so I’m definitely not missing out.

Oh so it’s 2yrs now I have survived.

I actually enjoy looking at those kinds of pictures.

I have unfollowed a few people on Facebook, I think I find it all a bit cringe worthy now my dc's are older, I don't miss the baby or toddler stage so I don't find it interesting when people are posting photos or writing about 'what little johnny has achieved today'. And the potty training updates are not interesting to read, who needs to know if little Ivy has pooped on the potty today?

Luckily there are only a few people on my Fb that post these things and I can just unfollow or ignore their posts. I'm waiting for the influx of 'Christmas present piles' that people feel the need to post.

Other things that annoy me are people posting photos of their dinner, photos that often look like a plate full of vomit, I have to try really hard not to say something.