To ask how much your OH helps with kids?

[lilly0]

I don't think my OH deliberately does it but he doesn't take the initiative at all with DD.

He does do nice things with her swimming, trips to McDonald's, cinema if I have to do something else but he doesn't do the boring stuff like packing her bag, showering her , making sure she's brushed her teeth , washing her clothes leaving shoes and bookbag by the door , signing planner , school reading, remembering to sign forms he wants to have another baby but I don't want to do the bulk of everything We both work full time I have a conference next week for 2 days and I'm wondering how he's going to cope.

Wouldst help or is that babying him?

My husband works from home so does the bulk of the childcare (pick ups/drop-offs) He loves cooking so he does this too. On the weekend i cook. I work full time. I would say he does 60% of everything that needs doing - becasue he has more time than me. When he does work - its mainly overseas so i manage those times (a couple of weeks at a time a few times a year) myself. we split the house work but he does the deep cleans (washing carpets, toilets, mops)

my OH does brekkie and sorts 2 little ones clothes (we have 4!) then he goes to work. he usually does dinner 3x a week and washes up about 5 nights out of 7. He does the youngest 2s bath and the eldest 2s lunchboxes.

The word 'help' here sticks out like a sore thumb.

Your husband shouldn't be 'helping'- looking after the DC is a shared responsibility.