I’m 21 and really need help cutting my family off. There’s so many things to go into, but generally they were abusive
My mother is the worst. Always comments on my appearance/outfits whilst never making the effort to wash and brush her teeth herself. She’s nosy and gives me no privacy- think spying on me from keyholes, from the window, rooting through my stuff to find my payslips, goes through my trash, making fake accounts on social media to stalk. Used to beat me, call me a slag etc. I don’t want to make this post too long but she is verbally and physically abusive and an absolute stalker. She has no life of her own and never leaves the house so it’s all taken out on me.
She has a selective memory and just remember her as being a sweet innocent elderly woman that hasn’t told me to kill myself before, among other vile remarks.
My brother is disgusting. Used to regularly beat me, give me no privacy ie walking in on me in the bath/toilet (no door lock), walking into my bedroom whenever, whatever state of undress, punched holes in my door, spat at me, threatened to kill me only last month. Unemployed, uses brothels, a general embarrassment. My mother thinks he’s the golden child and can do no wrong, will always take his side and defend him. He thinks he’s God.
My question is how exactly do you cut them off? I have moved 200 miles away. I have deleted and blocked them all on social media and my phone contacts but it doesn’t stop them from stalking me on social media, adding their commentary on my life or my trash mother from emailing me with her ‘woe is me you’re so mean for not staying in touch’ emails. All they do is detract from my life and make it worse - I just want them out of my life forever. But how????