To think this a very odd 'save the date' thing?

[BlueButTrue]

DCousin is getting married and she’s sent out her ‘save the date’ thing, instead it’s plural... It’s save the dates!

She’s put a few different dates down, not evening explaining why etc etc. Just begins with “Here are our dates we’re considering.Put those plans on hold!’All our love, xyz”

I want to be slightly miffed but it’s hard since personalised biscuits are included and they’re quite yummy

Furthermore, she’s ended it with “Top hint: Keep colour schemes orange/white or maybe pink in mind” - Yes, that’s right. She said maybe.

AIBU to say this is very odd?!

[BlueButTrue]

My Mum got a save the date thingy once. It was a fridge magnet. 

Brilliant

[Sparklingbrook]

It had a pic of the B&G on holiday somewhere on it Blue she put it on the fridge, can't remember if she went to the wedding though.

[shoeaddict83]

this is bizarre! So are you to expect another 'invite' or save the date with the actual date and colour scheme?? And wtf is the point in telling you to keep a colour scheme in mind? Is she expecting you to go spend money on two outfits so you are ready for whichever scheme she goes with?

[ILostItInTheEarlyNineties]

It's vague to say the least. She may as well have said,

"Hinting about getting married at some point next year, not sure what I want you to wear; maybe orange white or pink. Biscuit?"

[Dahlietta]

I think 'save the date' is weird anyway. Just book it and send out an invitation. How many jobs do people want to give themselves to do?

[Hoppinggreen]

Just enjoy the biscuits and ignore the crazy

[sizenines]

Why take any notice of this? She's clearly a scatterbrain.

[Sparklingbrook]

I would definitely worry what the actual day would be like if I got personalised biscuits with the save the date(s) card.
What on earth will the invitation involve? Sounds like hard work.

[Trills]

Biscuits are a nice idea. Homemade?

They sound a bit over the top, but they clearly do want you there, and want you to have biscuits.

[ReanimatedSGB]

Could she maybe mean 'Let us know which of these dates is better for you'? If you're booking an event and the venue offers you a choice, I don't think it's that unreasonable to contact the people you are planning to invite and do a quick straw poll as to whether one date is more convenient for more people than the other.

(And February is not that popular a month for weddings, so there may be more leeway in booking.)

[ILostItInTheEarlyNineties]

Good point Sparkling. She's set a precedent now and everyone is going to feel very let down if the actual invitation doesn't contain food items (with their names on).

[Sparklingbrook]

Exactly ILost, they can't just buy some invitations from WH Smiths, they are going to have to be amazing to avoid disappointment, and the day itself will have to be unbeatable.

[Leilaniii]

Wow, pink and orange look lovely together, I had no idea.

[CardsforKittens]

Very few people suit orange and pink equally well. I look great in orange but terrible in pink. I can't believe someone would be so inconsiderate as to introduce this kind of anxiety to their potential guests months in advance.


Hope all goes well on the day(s) !

[senzaparole03]

I've been sending out save the dates.

They're whatsapp messages to friends and family saying we'll be getting married on such and such a date, stick it in the diary.

Um. That's it.

[TuftedLadyGrotto]

Surely personalised biscuits surely aren't the priority if you haven't actually booked a date yet.

[Justbookedasummmerholiday]

Quick ring around fancy dress shops and reserve oompa loompa outfits....

[bengalcat]

Personally for me until such time as an invite comes through I wouldn't be saving the date meaning first come first served with whatever comes up first on that date be it work or a family thing but if that's her request then what you do with the information is entirely up to you .

[Trills]

I'm going to give the benefit of the doubt here and say that you are being told about the colour scheme because people who are obsessed with their weddings think that other people care about their colour schemes.

Pink and/or orange will be the colour of the invitations and table decorations, not colours that you have to partake in.

[Sparklingbrook]

I got married in the nineties and so did most of my friends. Not a single save the date was sent or received for any of the weddings. Just a normal invitation a few months before.

[MollyHuaCha]

I could never wear orange and would have to decline the me invitation on that basis alone.

[BlueButTrue]

I'm going to give the benefit of the doubt here and say that you are being told about the colour scheme because people who are obsessed with their weddings think that other people care about their colour schemes

But if guests can wear what colour they’d like, why where your colour scheme with them in advance? Seems odd

[MrsHathaway]

Yes, I think you're being given a heads-up that if you wear orange/pink you might be mistaken for a bridesmaid.

[Trills]

if guests can wear what colour they’d like, why where your colour scheme with them in advance? Seems odd

Yep. People who are obsessed with weddings are odd.

They put tinys bit of coloured ribbon on their invitations and expect you to notice that it matches the bridesmaids' dresses 3 months later.

[iwouldgoouttonight]

The only save the date card I've ever received the couple spilt up before the wedding.

As I'd saved the date as requested I spent the day sitting about in my pants with absolutely nothing to do.

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