To think it's really hard to be a good teacher and good mum?

[Mammyloveswine]

Currently sat crying my eyes out as feel like I've neglected DS1 (22 months) today. We've been stuck in the house whilst I cleaned this morning, he's refused to nap so I'm trying to do my planning whilst he's pottering about (and CBeebies is on in the background).

I'm officially part time (0.7 contract) but have responsiblity for the planning and assessment of 2 year groups so have as much work outside of the classroom as my full-time colleagues, I just work a shorter day but still 5 days a week in school.

My DH works 12 hour days (including weekends) and I'm 33 weeks pregnant. I was expecting my parents at "lunchtime" so just rang to ask if they were on their way and would they mind taking DS1 to the park for an hour so I could get on uninterrupted. I was told "Oh no were busy and were off shopping now so it'll be late this afternoon we get to you now". I know they don't have to help and I do as much work as I can through the week when DH might have a day off or when DS sleeps but I just feel so tired and like I don't have enough time to be both a good teacher and a good mother. I get no time to myself at all and I'm just feeling fed up.

I'm not even sure what my aibu is.. I just feel close to breaking point.

Hi I'm a primary teacher with a husband who works away alot and we have pre school age twins. I have done all sorts of combinations of part time hours and can honestly say I can only do both well now I am on 0.5 and have some time when the girls are at preschool and off to do house stuff and catch up on bits of work. It has got easier as they have got older, hang in their!

Wing it and enjoy the afternoon with ds. Run a huge bubble bath after the park for both of you. When your parents arrive hand them story books, clean child and commit to 45 mins of planning fast track in another room. Then relax. You only have a matter of weeks to go....once the baby arrives things will have to change anyway.

Thank you OP x

I'm another one saying wing it (to a degree).

I have 20 years + experience under my belt and rarely plan outside of school. I use pretty much all my PPA time for that and then fit in the marking etc before and after school. I'm very organised and my school's requirements for official planning paperwork is thankfully very manageable most of the time. I have been in my yeargroup for a couple of years and have lots and lots of resources I've made and kept (electronically) and can adapt and differentiate quickly, which really helps. I have also learnt what shortcuts can be taken without affecting the pupils in any way, and what I need to prioritise. I don't leave on Fri unless I have at least Mon-Wed planned and prepped for (in my designated drawers I keep for each day of the week so it's waiting for me after the weekend.) I will occasionally take marking home if I need to do assessments, but otherwise leave it in school.

I was pt for 15 years after having dc. I was mostly on 0.71 but that was with an afternoon and a day off a week. Which left me with less to plan and prepare. But fewer after school sessions to fit it in.

I'm now ft and although I have less time for myself and the dc and have more lessons to teach, in one respect it's easier as I'm there as much as everyone else and have 5 pre school and after school directed time slots to fit in marking etc.

0.7 but there every day of the week sounds like a nightmare. Unless it lets you fit in school pickups or something then I'm not sure it's worth being pt.