To expect Christmas cards?

[mintich]

For the last couple of years, I have received around half the cards I send out to friends. I normally get a text saying "thanks for the card but we aren't sending cards this year" I think it's sad that they aren't sending cards anymore. I get if people can't afford it but I'm pretty sure they can. It seems petty to only send a card if I'll get one back but that's how I feel!

So aside from how rude and disrespectful it is, how do you know you're not missing out on something by not checking? Money, an invitation, a cheque? That's why I don't believe anyone would do it.

Money, an invitation, a cheque? That's why I don't believe anyone would do it

Just what happened to out client. Who then expected us to sort out her fuck up and wouldn't admit she was in the wrong

I like to send cards and last year when I was pretty much housebound during pregnancy getting cards from friends and family from far way was lovely as I was pretty lonely. I think it’s nice to think of who might need that card and kind words inside.

Of the people who used to send cards and now don’t, none of them rang me.

I like sending cards, I find it a nice way to get into the spirit of things, Christmas music or film on in the background and glass (or bottle) of wine.
I don’t expect any back, but I think it’s nice to get them, and they get put on the mantlepiece.
I can’t imagine not opening a card though, that just seems really rude.

I no longer send card and wish I didn't receive any.

They either get recycled or just clutter the place up.

*Some people think differently shocker 🤔'

Some people are rude shocker.

Not sending cards is fine. Actively disposing of a message someone has cared enough to send is disrespectful and says a lot about an individual's friendship values (or lack thereof) .

Forcing Xmas on people that don’t do Xmas is quite rude too.

Nobody would have cause to send me a cheque.

My friendship values don’t revolve around pointless bits of cardboard thankfully.

Is definitely a generational thing and possible a female thing. I long ago stopped sending cards for generic seasonal reasons. It just seemed so wasteful and impersonal to buy dozens of cards and stamps and send them around the world just for them to be binned a few weeks later.

How much do those millions/billions of cards add to global warming?

Much more important to spend time with the people you care about. And for those further away write them emails, Skype them and stay in touch.

If anyone sends me one I text them a reply with a subtle reminder that I don't cards so dont send me anymore.

Am lazy when it comes to cards honestly not a big fan either way. But what annoys me more than Christmas cards is soon as u get married the assumption is the “wife” takes over cc duty. When I met my DH He used to send stacks of cc I thought it was sweet (I admit am terrible!) but soon as we moved in he would TALk lots about writing the cards even buy packs & sometimes he wrote them but more often than not they were left there. Then his mum would come to ME to say ye you send cards to x y z & I’d be like - ask your son! She’s card obsessed tho - drives me insane!!

I send cards, and do like to get them back, but I understand that times have changed and not everyone does it. So I don't take it personally if I don't get one back.

I live in a little village (300-ish people) where the demographic is two thirds over 55, and people do give and receive cards. Some people class it as a snub if they send a card, and don't get one back. It's not a case of 'I only give to receive;' for some, it's tantamount to smiling and saying hello to someone as you're passing, and them ignoring you.

Many people are from a generation that send cards (and like to receive one back.) And just because someone sends a card, that doesn't mean they don't also speak to people, or ring them. What an odd thing to say!

I give to family, neighbours, work colleagues, and friends. I also give them to the doctors, dentist, bank, local shop, and several other businesses. I hand most of them out in person (or post them through the door,) I only send half a dozen by post now.

I don't send them just to get them back, but it's nice when someone does send one. I do however, hate to receive them from people who never bother with me and my family the rest of the year, and send the dreaded 'round robin.' THEY get thrown straight in the bin, without being read!

Christmas cards are generally recycled. So I doubt that it adds to the global warming issue.

@nerrsnerr

Of the people who used to send cards and now don’t, none of them rang me.

LOL yes! I am willing to bet that all the people who stopped sending Christmas cards, didn't ring all the people they don't send cards to anymore to have a long chat with them!

Christmas cards are generally recycled. So I doubt that it adds to the global warming issue.

Do you think the production and printing of cards, sending of cards, collection of cards and recycling of cards are all done without any energy?

I send them to older relatives and neighbours - they are very traditional and would feel snubbed if I didn't. I don't mind doing this and put an hour aside to write them with a glass of red. I am becoming a card snob though and only buy good quality Dickensian or religious scenes (I'm not). God, have turned in to my mother.
I don't put any we receive up as the cats go mad and try to scale the walls to get them.

Of the people who used to send cards and now don’t, none of them rang me.

If those people can't be arsed to ring you, why would you want to receive a card from them?

Do you think the production and printing of cards, sending of cards, collection of cards and recycling of cards are all done without any energy?

The poster in question was on about the binning of the cards/disposing of them. That is what I was responding to when I said most of them are recycled so would not contribute much to the global warming issue.

Christmas cards to me are now passé. A Victorian custom we’re still pursuing in 2017.
I’ve stopped sending them apart from some to older people who still have a social expectation to receive one. I would not be remotely offended to not receive any as they mean nothing to me anyway. Delighted that the custom is dying out. It’s generational.

If those people can't be arsed to ring you, why would you want to receive a card from them?

You are missing the point @Julia8008

The point being made is that some people on here are making out that they prefer to speak to someone rather than send a card. Yet I am willing to bet that all these people who stopped sending cards NEVER ring the person/people they didn't send the card(s) to.

If people do not wish to send cards, then don't, but there is some disdain and rude comments being thrown around on here at people who do. Not everyone is the same.

The poster in question was on about the binning of the cards/disposing of them. That is what I was responding to when I said most of them are recycled so would not contribute much to the global warming issue.

Their existence costs energy.

Getting them to the shops and onto recipients costs energy.

Recycling them afterwards costs energy.

You can’t just take the last bit and say it has little impact.

Oh God I’m meant to ring everyone rather than send cards now? my introvertness is screaming.

The existence of the cards costs energy.

Getting them to the shops and onto recipients costs energy.

Recycling them afterwards costs energy.

You can’t just take the last bit and say it has little impact.

@Tittygolightly

Are you deliberately being pedantic?

I 'took the last bit' because that is all the poster mentioned! Good God, some people on here could cause an argument in an empty room!

She mentioned ONLY the disposal of the cards, so that is what I was responding to!

@Danceswithotters

We visit and take gifts/food to the people we care about, or invite them to our home.

Just because someone sends a card, that doesn't mean they don't talk to them or care about them or ever go and see them!

FGS, I actually hand deliver my cards!

There are some bizarre and wacky posts on this thread, and some very rude assumptions!