To think it would be nice if someone offered to help

[Ambonsai]

I have some single parent friends who I offer help when I can, pick ups, lifts, etc.
My husband died and I've just realised that no-one has ever offered me anything.
Not a lift for ds from a party, football game, friends house.
I've also realised that they all seem to sharing various pick ups. Ive never asked, but it would be nice for someone to offer.
Maybe it's my fault.

And while I'm here, don't you think it would be nice if one or two of the 200 people who were at my husbands funeral would make the effort to ask how we're doing? A text would do.

Also compllicated because since his death I've discovered the depth of his betrayal. I'd feel a bit of a fraud with WAY as I hate him a lot of the time.

3 different messages I sent over the weekend, suggesting meet ups with friends. No response.
Even my hairdresser is ignoring me

Ambonsai i am really sorry your friends didnt get back to you. There ist really a good excuse but i hope it is thoughtlessness rather than them being deliberately hurtful.

I do think a support group would be a good idea. Lots of relationshops are complex so i dont know if everyone who is widowed was in an ideal situation

Death brings out the worst in some people. When my sister and I lost my mum as teenagers, many of her friends and my family didn't bother with us again as 'it was too upsetting for them'. Hugs op - thinking of you x