To be annoyed that my parents are getting married without me??

[AllGoodDogs]

Only slightly serious.

Parents (dad and step mum) have been engaged for 30 years. Dad had cancer last year and is now thankfully out the other side but it's made them evaluate things. They're having an amazing holiday next week to Antigua and the resort is so posh that they'll marry you for no extra charge!

I'm a bit upset that I won't be there, and that they've gone out and got rings, mum's got a dress etc already so I didn't get to be a part of the exciting planning stuff either.

I'm so happy they're getting married, I've been telling them to forever, but I am upset I'm not involved at all.

AIBU??

I’d do something for them when they get back. Would they like that?

I understand why you're disappointed.

But it's about the 2 of them and their wishes. I think it sounds lovely, they're doing it because they want to, not for the show of it all.

Arrange something nice for them and look forward to seeing what I'm sure will be beautiful photos. I'm sure your happiness for them will far outweigh your disappointment.

Is it at all possible that the fact you’ve been “telling them to” get married means that they just want to be private and personal now that they are.

I mean, obviously they know you want them to and have for 30 years. So this isn’t about your feelings but theirs.

YANBU

my dad once made a passing comment about me not being there if he married his partner. He was shocked that I found that incredibly hurtful.

I think it's entirely reasonable to be sad you can't be there, but is it any different to a couple eloping or not inviting parents to their wedding.

It's often said on here that a wedding is about the couple and no one else ultimately.

I can understand why it would be lovely to be there though.