Resenting DH over Friendship..

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Aibu to be feeling really down tonight & also really resentful towards DH too.

DH & I had a very close friendship with another couple who we saw regularly for meals out, events or even just evenings at each other's houses. This friendship lasted over 4 years.

At the start of this year DH and the male friend from the above mentioned couple had a bad falling out and DH has said he won't ever forgive him nor go back to being friends again..
& apart from the odd 'hope you're both keeping well' message from either myself or else the female friend to each other we haven't seen or spoken properly due to our DHs falling out. (As this causes agruements within my marriage)

& tonight I really miss her.. I've tried talking to DH about making up with 'X' (as X is ready to move on ans forget about it and enjoy being friends again) but DH has none of it and completely shuts me down and doesn't seem to understand why I'd want to be their friend anymore..

Am I really being unfair to resent him for wrecking a good friendship that I had with my friends?

Bluntness100 it may be the same illness Harvey Weinstein is getting treatment for...

Ah, yes, that illness.....

It is coming across as if you want It to go back to how it was and both be friendly with the other couple.

Of course it's up to you if want to be friends with them your original friend or even both if them.

It is also uo to your DH if he wants to or not.

We need more info as to what was said or done though.

So the friend basically hit on you and your dh no longer wants either of you to be friends with him? I think that's understandable. I don't think his mental health at the time is relevant if it was so out of the blue.

Yanbu to still want to be friends with the wife. Your dh obviously feels by seeing her you will inadvertently see him and that's the issue perhaps?

It’s the bit where you say the guy is ready to move on, forget about it and be friends again, which is confusing me. That reads like he did no wrong and it’s big of him to do this. Which is bizzare. How do you even know this?

I'd struggle to forgive and forget if a friend made a pass at my husband tbh.

It sounds like a shame for all concerned but your husband isn't the one who spoiled the friendship.