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AIBU?

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..to think I should be ´allowed´ to drive myself into town on my own?

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maveta · 16/04/2007 12:27

I am 39 weeks pregnant and have several little errands I want to run in town (20 mins car drive away). I am bored of being in the house/ depending on others to take me somewhere when I want to go and really fancy getting out and doing these things on my own. Dh has not been happy about me driving since I had a couple of hypoglycemic attacks while driving a couple of months ago. By and large I have avoided, under my own steam, driving since then although in general I´ve not had more attacks and even then, they happened very early in the morning just after breakfast.
Anyway, now dh has said he doesn´t want me to drive myself and he will take me at lunchtime.
Who is being unreasonable here, me or him??

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bigknickersbigknockers · 16/04/2007 12:29

sorry but I think you are. Your DH is probably just concerned for yours and your babys well being. Would it hurt to wait till lunchtime when he can take you

Emmymummy · 16/04/2007 12:30

Maveta - he's changed his mind then? I think he's being a tad over-protective! Take your mobile phone with you, you can call him if you feel unwell.

fluffyanimal · 16/04/2007 12:32

What would you do if you had a sudden strong contraction whilst on that 20 minute drive? I don't think he's being unreasonable, just concerned about you. Is there a bus you could take instead, if you'd rather be on your own? Could he drop you off and collect you? At 39 weeks pg and with a history of hypoglycemic attacks, I think you need to accept that anything could happen. I know it's frustrating, but it sounds like it's for the best to me.

Twiglett · 16/04/2007 12:33

you are

because you've been having hypoglycemic attacks and if you have one whilst driving you could hurt yourself, your baby or a complete unconnected passerby

marieg76 · 16/04/2007 12:36

Being hypoglycaemic myself, I think that you are being unreasonable. You could hurt yourself and/or the baby so you should consider how protective your husband feels about his growing family.

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maveta · 16/04/2007 12:39

Oh poo. Okay then, I´ll go with the general consensus on this.. Getting very frustrated at being mollycoddled but am prepared to see that I might not be seeing this from an objective POV . Grumble grumble.

Emmy - yes, he said okay I could take the car when he got home but then called to say he´d changed his mind and wasn´t happy about it.

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Emmymummy · 16/04/2007 12:50

Oh well, never mind then Maveta, better get used to being looked after until you pop! Fingers crossed you don't end up with a C-section, otherwise you'll not be back behind the wheel for months! Have a good shop anyway.

baffledbybaby · 16/04/2007 12:50

Avoid driving if you can - apart from anything else it is uncomfortable at the stage you are at trying to squeeze yourself behind the steering wheel and finding a comfortable position. (That's what I found anyway).

ScummyMummy · 16/04/2007 12:52

Poor you. dh is right imo but I do really sympathise with the cooped up and annoyed at being dependent feeling. Isn't there a bus?

nailpolish · 16/04/2007 13:10

never mind the hypos, what if you went into labour?

there was a woman in my town who decided to drive herself to the hospital whilst in labour, she had persuaded her to dh to stay at home and look after the children as it was the middle of the night

she crashed the car, putting herself and the baby in A&E

MrsWho · 16/04/2007 19:42

When my friend had a hypo she wasn't allowed to drive for a year until she was consistant again.Have you never been told that?

KnayedFrot · 16/04/2007 19:49

I went into town when i was 39 weeks to run some errands and nearly went into labour walking back to the car park up a bit of a hill.

Not an experience I'd want to repeat, really, i was qute frightened.

Plus with teh hypoglycaemia i think it maks sense not to.

Blondilocks · 16/04/2007 19:56

Couldn't you get a taxi & then get OH to pick you up? That way you have a bit of freedom but avoid driving yourself?

yogimum · 16/04/2007 20:11

I don't think you should drive at this late stage. I drove at 39 weeks and got a flat tyre. I was stood on the dual carriageway waiting for my DH to come. I got some funny looks but nobody stopped to help!! My waters broke that evening.

Lovecat · 16/04/2007 20:16

I drove at this late stage, but then I wasn't hypo. Don't think I would have done if I had been, sorry - I do understand your frustration!

And it's not that bad with a c-section - I was driving again 3 weeks after the birth, no problems (but I may have been lucky - you have to go with how you feel, I suppose!)

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