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To be pissed off with my experience at the hospital

132 replies

Lostmum72 · 09/11/2017 20:34

I need to rant, my dd did something to her leg last night just seemed to twist it really, but she was in real pain and had a bit of a funny turn, dizzy, clammy etc, anyway she recovered but her leg was still sore but no swelling or bruising. This morning she still felt funny walking on it so I said u better stay at home we’ll keep an eye on it and take u Drs if gets worse. So then later on in the day she got up to go the loo, when she came back she had another funny turn, and said her leg really hurt! So I rang the Drs, they said to go to the hospital as it needed an X-ray. So off I go knowing I was in for a long wait, 3 hrs later a dr who hardly examined her, told me there was nothing wrong with her, they don’t X-ray that sort of thing and the fainting was unrelated 🤔. I explained again that every time she walked on it she went funny! They did some obs and sent us home! I so annoyed at his attitude I know they’re busy and the NHS is stretched but I feel really let down and haven’t a clue what’s wrong with her. To make it worse her dad (who is my ex) is moaning at me for not doing enough, and my current partner just thinks she’s been exaggerating for a day off school! Neither is helpful and I feel so annoyed and let down. Would you?

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JonSnowsWife · 12/11/2017 12:34

Bless her. Back to GPs in the morning? Flowers for your DD.

kali110 · 12/11/2017 12:44

You need to go back then, get her to show them exactly where the pain is.
I wish i had! They can miss things, more than once.
I think our nhs is fantastic, however doctors are human and do make mistakes.

mikeyssister · 13/11/2017 10:03

DD had a definite hot spot on her knee.

I knew by her there was a problem, and wouldn't let it go. I think it's easier in Dublin though because I could have gone private for an X-ray without any delay.

I really think you should go back to A&E. This is as the result of an accident and your daughter needs an X-ray.

My favourite doctor always says listen to mothers, because they know their children.

Trust your instincts.

Lostmum72 · 14/11/2017 15:31

Well we back in a&e waiting for X-ray as no better !!

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kali110 · 14/11/2017 17:56

Sorry op, atleast you hopefully may get an answer!

UterusUterusGhali · 14/11/2017 18:23

Ach.
I love my local minor injuries unit for stuff like this. Such a shame you don't have one nearby.
Hope it's all ok. Xx

happymumof4crazykids · 14/11/2017 18:30

Fingers crossed your daughter is ok!

Mishappening · 14/11/2017 18:32

Poor lass.

Fractures certainly do make you faint! I was unconscious for ages after breaking my foot.

I do hope your DD is OK.

laurzj82 · 14/11/2017 18:36

How did you get on OP? Hopr your DD is ok

mikeyssister · 14/11/2017 20:59

Hope your DD is okay Lost

splatattack · 14/11/2017 21:08

Good luck for your daughter OP! Flowers

Walkingonsunshine1992 · 14/11/2017 22:01

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Ljlsmum · 14/11/2017 22:07

Could be coincidental- check her for any bite marks, or ticks.
Could be a hip or knee issue. Is she particularly flexible? Any overly bendy joints?

Dippydippydora · 15/11/2017 01:24

Hope all is ok OP

skinoncustard · 15/11/2017 09:55

Hope all is well . Flowers

CanuckBC · 15/11/2017 10:03

I hope they figured out what is going on and your daughter is in her way to healing.

Lostmum72 · 15/11/2017 17:02

Yep a hairline fracture, didn’t show up at first so they did it again from a different angle and there it was, I knew something wasn’t right! Anyway at least we know now, so cross with that dr that treated us like rubbish!!

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WellThisIsShit · 15/11/2017 17:20

Well done for getting her seen again and being persistent enough to get a diagnosis.

If you feel up to it, will you write and give feedback / make a complaint?

It doesn’t have to be a huge one, but I do think that doctors sometimes carry on convinced they are right as they don’t ever get the feedback that would make them reassess their behaviour and develop as a doctor.

This doctor was dismissive and had decided you were whining and nothing was wrong probably based on assumptions and stereotypes

For example, perhaps he decided that teenage girls do faint / exaggerate or whatever. Plus over protective parents see things that aren’t there... or perhaps he decided that patients often add two and two together and make five.

Whatever his thinking, he didn’t bother to take your DD’s symptoms seriously. He didn’t appear to focus long enough to work out a really quite basic thing - why the severe non weight bearing leg pain could possibly be related to a girl fainting... err, from the pain!

He also sounded like he’d judged you based on his incorrect assumptions and decided he could be quite rude in dismissing your dd’s symptoms, and being clear how annoying and pointless your visit to A&E was...

So, lots of reasons why he might have made that error in judgement, and not necessary to haul him over hot coals (maybe?!). It was hard to spot, he was probably tired, over stretched, had more life threatening patients to focus on etc etc etc...

But without being informed that he actually made a wrong call that evening, your interaction will have actually strengthened his views and he will likely treat others the same way in the future.

Lostmum72 · 15/11/2017 17:48

Oh yes, don’t you worry I will leave him feedback alright! Got the email address ready

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JustDanceAddict · 15/11/2017 17:53

I think the pain/shock is making her feel faint. I’ve passed out from pain before.
The Dr shouldn’t have been short with you though & tbh when I’ve taken my kids for injuries that could be breaks they have always been x-rayed.

k567 · 15/11/2017 18:42

Fracture of where Lostmum?

Lostmum72 · 15/11/2017 19:02

Hairline fracture of the tibia, how the hell she did that I don’t know 🤔

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kali110 · 15/11/2017 19:39

So glad u got to the bottom of it! Least you may have saved your daughter years of pain Smile

secretmum41 · 16/11/2017 09:06

Us mum's just know when something is wrong. I'm fed up of dismissive doctors and specialists. Why, oh why won't they listen?! Angry
Are they putting her in a cast?

My dd is back next week to see if her missed fracture has healed yet, 17 weeks down the line!

Rainbowandraindrops67 · 16/11/2017 13:49

Totally agree secret mum - sadly the story is so common nowadays. Mums should be taken seriously