To be really pissed off at this woman?

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Was in a local bar with my partner when this woman came over and started talking to us. Nothing wrong with that - it's the sort of place where people do just get into conversation with strangers.

However, after a while I started to get the impression that she was a bit of a Nosey Norah and started to put my guard up. Partner, however, is a big soft labrador to my snappy little terrier and carried on chatting. He was just explaining to her how we'd recently moved into the town centre from the outskirts because of his sight problems - he's not far off being legally blind (not legally blonde, that's a different thing altogether) - when she said something like "You know, this might seem a bit insensitive but sometimes at the end of the day I feel like I've seen too many things and I just want a bit of a break from it".

This happened nearly a week ago and I still wish I'd told her to fuck the fuck right off to fuckville and sit in the fucking dark. Am I being unreasonable?

She just sounds thick to me, tbh.

It was a silly thing to say, but she wasn't trying to be horrible.

Really don't sweat the small stuff.

I’m chronically ill with ME/CFS. People say insensitive things to me. It’s a hidden disability. The thing, which hurts most is friends saying dumb things. But I know it’s just unthinking instead of uncaring.

Most people don’t say or do things to hurt people. The woman was trying to make a connection with you both and ballsed up. She sounds lonely. Try to be kind. Surprisingly, it actually helps to put the upset into perspective when you are.

YABU. It was a very clumsy attempt at empathy but it wasn't malicious. I would bet she thought it would be awful to say something like "Oh god how awful, being blind is my worst nightmare!" so tried to find a positive.