Flushing toilet at night...

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There’s the saying: “if it’s yellow, let it mellow; if it’s brown, flush it down”.

I was brought up to do this at night time if I needed the toilet, to minimise disturbance to other family members. I always wonder about the etiquette of this when staying with others.... not something I do much, but maybe once or twice a year. AIBU to think I shouldn’t flush the loo at 3am for a wee, or is this gross. I’ve tended to flush in these situations as hadn’t wanted to be seen as mucky, but is this unnecessary?

Just flush it. I hate finding pee in the toilet, yuck!

Please flush! Mellowing pee in the toilet is a really vile smell for the poor sod who has to use the bathroom after you!

I’m far from hygiene obsessed but the sight of someone else’s wee first thing in the morning is minging. Does a flushing toilet really wake anyone?

How loud are your toilets you're worried about waking up the entire household?

Always ask if camping / cottage ( no mains sewage ) rules apply.

Plus do you realise the amount of fresh water your flushing down the pan for the pint of pee.

not very ECO friendly. :)
Question is are guys supposed to stand or sit during the night???

Why not just ask?

Never flush at night for fear of waking the kids.

No number 2s at night in our house.

It seems it's split pretty much 50/50 so I suppose the thing to do is ask your hosts, that's what I'd do.

I get up several times in the night and also wake easily (would hate to interrupt others' sleep) so I generally do the 'let it mellow' thing at home for overnight wees only.

Some of you are quite precious about it though, aren't you? Is it really a problem, especially if the lid is down? How would you have survived in ye olden dayes when everyone had a pot under the bed? Besides multiple flushes not being very green.

I had this problem in the last airbnb I stayed in - risk waking host in next-door room up at 3am, or risk them being disgusted at the loo in the morning? Rock and a hard place!!! I did one option the first night, the other the second!!! I got a good review, so perhaps she wasn't fussed either way

Always flush here whatever the time .

We have guests all the bloody time (live in a tourist location and DH is very social where I am not). I cannot bear being faced with someone's pee first thing in the morning. So for us it would be a 'please feel free to flush' situation.

As for guys sitting or standing- whatever, just please please clean up after yourself if you are peeing standing up. One of DH's friends (who is an entitled fucker in other ways too) has dreadful aim and never cleans it up. I got so cross last time I told DH to either tell him or to clean it up himself. He did the latter as he was too embarrassed to tell him.

Pemba thank god it's not ye olden dayes nowadays.

Anyway- usually people don't realise the toilet has not been flushed until they lift the lid to use it. [shudder].

This has been a thing here too, as just courtesy really. I do agree after it's been festering it pongs a bit, so I really don't know where I am with this, I'll remain neutral.

Just to add I used to in my student days, clean a pub & do Bar work. The men's urinal was a delightful treat, or should I say the toilets as after a few pints, aim isn't really precise, thus I'd mop first then go back.

I've always wondered how people with indoor cats cope, as that is a horrific smell.

Reading with interest as I am a night pee-er and may go 2-3 times a night, so it's a reason why I don't really like staying over at someone's house, I've got used to having own Ensuite at home. I don't flush at home at night, but do when I've stayed at others (but close lid to muffle sound).

I guess one solution could be to use a jug of water (night pee-ers like could bring one!) rather than flush at night? Do that then stick a bit of bleach down to avoid smell?

I'd be happy with that solution, clueless.

If it's just me and DD in the house during the day, I don't flush every time I pee. It's such a waste of water.

Just flush the toilet! No need for big debates on "etiquette" or anything else.

Waking up to other people's stinking, mellowing pee or worse is horrible. Very bad manners to just leave it for the host to find.

Surely toilet "etiquette" is that you flush it and leave it clean, as you would wish to find it.

You could equally well say very bad manners to keep waking your hosts by flushing several times in the night.

I think clueless's compromise solution to not flush, but stick some toilet cleaner/bleach down there sounds like a plan.

It’s threads like these that make me think why the fuck do I bother worrying about my carbon footprint or the environment when so many others don’t give an actual shit.

The people who flush every single time just because? It’s so not necessary. What a waste of waster.

Water. Ffs.

I’m just mostly astounded by the number of people who can’t make it through the night without going to the loo.

I honestly didn’t realise this was so common until I was heavily pregnant and moaning about having to get up at night and all my friends were like

I wasn’t really thinking about flushing Just at night. In my household we do actually try to flush less so if there’s a few wees it’s no big deal and they all go down in one. I’m talking two or three here; not masses.

But you know! I may as well act all Trump about it and flush every time.

I’ve long thought of him as my carbon footprint antithesis. Sometimes it makes me extremely cross thinking how families like mine are expected to - and do - try to conserve energy for the sake of the planet, yet cunts like him - and all ‘celebs’ - fly around the world in private jets and no doubt have fountains of water spraying everywhere at all times just for aesthetic value.

I have a hard time reconciling what we the little people are supposed to do to conserve while the likes of him do what they want. But then when you realise yer average Joe is doing it too I think why bother at all.

Fuck it. Let the planet die. Nobody cares until it affects them directly.

Just ask.

We always flush here at night and each time throughout the day. I have a dratted low flow and also very silent loo though.