AIBU to find that my bf makes out he's single to his ex? She has 2 girls by him aged 13 and 14. They were in a relationship for 2 years. I've been with him almost 2 years and he constantly makes it he's single to her. When I ask why.. He says to "not rock the boat". Why would any boat be rocking because he's in a relationship with me? He says he thinks she will stop him seeing his kids if she knew he was in a relationship. I'm so confused by this. We live 40 miles apart and they live about 15/20mins away from each other. I'm not asking to meet them or be another mother figure in their lives. They have a brilliant mother already. He doesnt answer his phone if it's the ex when he's with me. Reply to messages either when with me but then won't answer a call /text from me if he's in any of their company kids or ex. It just seems strange.
I give the girls gifts for birthdays and Christmases but he gives them those as if from him because of the whole "you're a secret". They've not been together for 12 years! Why would it matter now? I tell him how confused I am about it and that I don't understand why she would do that but he just sticks by his excuse. I've asked him if he's cheating on me or that if I'm the other women. He just acts baffled why I would think like that. Am I missing something here? At our 6 month point I introduced him to my kids and their (my kids) father did the same with his relationship also... No problems. I'm so confused 🤔