To want to buy Christmas presents?!

[Diaryofalways87]

My DP has just announced that we need to "start telling people we're not buying Christmas presents this year" something I have not agreed to. I agree money is going to be tight this year. We have a baby due January, moved into a house 9 months ago and he has decided he needs a new car, which we are currently hunting for.

However, he has upset me mainly as he singled out my parents, saying I spend too much on them (usually £40-50 each). However, my mum has done free childcare for us since DD1 was born. They help us a lot both financially and with things like moving house etc.

AIBU to want to buy Christmas presents for close friends and family? I agree maybe we should tell our grandparents not to buy us anything and we won't in return. But to not buy anyone anything seems like such a grinchy thing to do?! I don't know whether I am upset because I'm pregnant and hormonal or whether I am justified. I feel like Christmas is going to be rubbish now, because he's going to be a grump if I buy presents :(

Omg I am loving these replies! You have all said exactly what I’m feeling!

Aww he can’t possibly get a Micra. He’s already had to give up on his dream of a brand new VW Golf GTI and lowered himself to a 2015 plate Mercedes. Poor little lamb!

Another thing that dawned on me... If we tell
people we don’t want presents and we won’t buy them any, I’m being well and truley stitched up here! I won’t get presents but he’ll get a Merc

I dare him to bring it up again!

Good point op!

The thing is your parents will buy for the kids anyway

E generally buy for the kids and not the grown ups unless the grown ips don't have kids - that includes parents and grandparent IYSWIM

Tell him it's looks bad to treat himself to a car and not the people who look after your children