To have a phone conversation with an ex

[Sparklesdontshine]

Yesterday my ex of over 20 years phoned me and we had a 10 minute chat. The context of this being our children are dating, and we had a bit of a catch up about family, the fact we are old enough to have children dating and how we were. Over the years I have had sporadic contact with him as we are still local to each other.

My husband has completely lost the plot, saying I was neglectful of his feelings and left him “sat in the other room waiting”.

My husband was putting dd to bed when ex phoned, i immediately told him who it was afterwards, and thought nothing of it.

Dh has spent the last 24 hours pretty much ignoring me, and making passive aggressive remarks.

I genuinely don’t understand the problem, I have never given him reason to doubt me, we have been married forever, have children etc

I have asked him to explain to me In idiot terms what I have done wrong, and he keeps saying he has already told me, and the fact that I still won’t accept and apologise how out of order I am, is making him even more angry.

I usually end up bowing down to him just to keep the peace, but I honestly don’t think I have done anything wrong

Am I missing something, aibu and a bitch?

Oh, and your marriage isn't going to end over a completely innocent phone call.

If it ends, it is because of his immature, petty, emotionally abusive behaviour. THis is on him, not you.

Sounds like you spend your marriage treading on eggshells because of his out of order behaviour if you don’t!

If I was you OP, I think a bag would be packed abd a hotel booked for a few days. What the fuck is he talking about? YADNBU!

The fact that you’ve said you usually bow down just to keep the peace suggests this isn’t a one off. His demands for recognition of his feelings are fucking ridiculous too! Sorry Op but he sounds like a moody and controlling arsehole who’s used to getting his own way and is going to create an atmosphere until you give in. Yanbu to have a conversation with your ex but I’d say you’ve bigger issues than that.