Do all the toddlers scream a lot?

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Went to visit a friend and her toddler (1.5year old) was very loud: screaming A LOT, banging most his toys. He fell from his high chair on his head (no belt), later he chocked on bread and later he banged his head on the table. He seemed very agitated to me. Now I don't know much but I'm pregnant with my first and it scared me a lot!

Reassure me??

No the ridiculous comment was you saying the "mum speaks quite loud so maybe the kid is just disturbed."

Yes, not strapping into highchair was silly and the accident avoidable. However, I fail to see how an 18 month old choking on bread was the mother's fault though? How precisely should she have prevented this happening?

I meant first aid for choking @MrsTerryPratchett

Just in case there are parents reading...

If a child stops breathing, goes blue or is unresponsive, get someone to CALL AN AMBULANCE even if you will be doing First Aid. If you perform a Heimlich or CPR, you need medical care AS WELL because these can cause internal damage. Paramedics would rather come to a resolved choking than not be called to an unresolved one.

If a child gags (rather than chokes) on food or similar, that's normal. Most resolves without issue. Don't pat their back while they are upright and gagging.

Do a first aid course.

@MrsTerryPratchett thank you very much

sounds like my 15 month old DD. She has several accidents a day and never seems to learn! She's fallen out the high chair a few times! I didn't know what the point of straps were until I had her (having had 2 previous calm babies). However, straps also have turned out to be a waste of time, she can climb out of straps too, in fact..the lean backwards she does to get out the straps is more dangerous than standing in the chair and falling out the side! She climbs out the buggy too even with shoulder straps on, she's small so even on the tightest setting she can wangle free! She's always climbing on furniture, on toys etc. She screams a fair bit too, she is very boisterous generally!

If the friend was distracted by talking to you, I can only imagine there would be more accidents as she was trying to host you. Obviously I can't speak for your friend but perhaps having a grown up to talk to for a change did make her a bit slack in her interactions with baby but we've all been there op and you will too!

My other DD is nearly 3 and screams a lot but she's got ASD. It may be my younger child does too, I don't know yet. It's possible your friend's toddler may have undiagnosed medical issues, it's hard to say in the under 2/3's. Just things to consider (if you care..sometimes I wonder if MN is really just a place to rant rather than wanting real advice)

Christ alive, so the mother forgot to strap the kid in the highchair - not great, but an easy enough thing to think you did, because you always do it - the lad choking is unfortunate, but can happen quite easily and bread is not an unsuitable food for a toddler. She "didn't interact with him much" during your visit, well you know, I tend to try and get my kids to amuse themselves when I have a friend over so I can talk to my friend. They get 99% of my interaction during their waking hours, they can cope with it and it's good for them to learn to amuse themselves.

You sound like you're looking for some sort of case to build against your friend in order to condemn her as a bad mother - well let me tell you, either you don't have one or there are so many bad mothers out there it's a wonder any of us make it to adulthood.

I've just spent the last hour being screamed at by my 1yo, because I had the audacity to ignore him while searching for the lost dummy that he will not sleep without. The hour before that was because I wouldn't share my dinner even though he'd already eaten, and the one before that was because I wouldn't let him dive head first off the sofa. I think some kids are just screamers!