Less of an AIBU and more of a WWYD.
An opportunity has come up for a big promotion at work. It is a brand new position. It's a role I have done before but at a smaller less prestigious company (but still a well known brand in a similar industry). I have been with my company 2 years, in a different but closely related function. Have good relationships at work, have had excellent reviews, get on well with senior leaders and the managing director.
There is another internal candidate from a different business unit who is 5 years less qualified than I am but has a good relationship with senior people at the parent company. He would have to relocate to take this role (but I don't think that would be an issue).
Anyway long story short I think I'd be a good candidate and I rate my chances of being chosen over other internal candidate. Am sure there will be v.g external candidates as well though.
Recruitment process starts next week with a view to offer being made by Christmas.
I am 6 weeks pregnant, will be 12 weeks on 17 December, due late June.
My company has an excellent reputation as a good employer - very good flexibility policies, very vocal about gender diversity, encouraging women leaders, claims the gender pay gap etc. I have one child (nearly 3) and have worked full time for the last year - it is a great environment to be a working parent.
If I got the job I wouldn't take a full year, would take 4-6 months,keep my nanny on maybe start back after 4 months 10-15 hours a week and ramp up from there. The packages this job entails means possibly DH could take some parental leave.
So my question is - when do I tell them I'm pregnant?
Do I wait to get a job offer and say by the way I'm expecting a baby in June, I'll need X amount of time for parental leave and here's how I plan to manage it? In principle I'm perfectly legally entitled to approach it that way but it's not a great way to start a new working relationship with the MD particularly. I could understand him feeling annoyed at being blindsided like that.
Do I go through a couple of rounds of interviews and tell them before a decision is made? E.g. "There are some personal circumstances that I'll need to manage in 2018 and here's how I plan to do that - I wanted to be upfront with you and I trust this won't affect your decision" ?? It's really trusting them not to be swayed by the pregnancy issue - is the fairer option not to tell and so ensure their judgement isn't influenced?
We have some aspirational targets around women in leadership and value our reputation in this area so potentially my situation could be slightly positive?!
Really 50/50 on this - would be v interested to hear your thoughts.