Before I start I'm feeling quite low in confidence in general, just had a failed IVF attempt, so please don't be too harsh! Also, I know this is completely a first world problem...
So, I am 38 and have dark hollows/loss of volume under my eyes which is a hereditary thing on my Dad's side. This has worsened over the last 10 years and every time I look in the mirror I feel crap. No matter how much concealer/foundation I use they are still there and I look tired no matter how much sleep I get. When people see me with no make-up they ask if I'm tired. I'm not! I stayed at my Auntie's house and felt too embarrassed going down for breakfast with no concealer on, so I layered two concealers and when she saw me she asked if I had had a bad night's sleep as I looked really tired! I'm wondering if they're this bad at 38, how will they be at 58?
I'm a bit fixated on it and find myself on the tube checking out other people's dark circles and comparing them to mine. Mine are always so much worse! And many people are decades older than me and don't have them at all.
I've complained to my DH about them for years and didn't realise until recently that you could have anything done about them (if you had the money and the inclination!) My DH always says he loves me as I am and tells me I'm beautiful but I don't feel it myself.
So I've been considering getting fillers but I really am only considering it. I haven't had any cosmetic procedures and don't want any (apart from this!) but I just want my under eyes to go back to 'normal'. I'm scared of needles and pain but after doing IVF I could probably cope! I'd love to look less tired and be able to wear no make up without feeling very self conscious, though I know there are risks and it is a major thing to be considering.
Do I accept that everyone ages and maybe this is just the way I'm ageing or do I go for a consultation?