To think I don't have a favourite child?

[emma2468]

Recent study says parents do
www.babble.com/parenting/parents-have-favorite-children-study/

With this in the back of my mind my daughter (nearly 5) asked me who my favourite child was. I laughed and said I don't have one. My son (7) joined in and said yes you do.

I then asked them did they really think I did and who do they think it is? My son said resolutely that his sister was my favourite.

I always treat them evenly with both time and money.

My daughter is higher maintenance and very in your face whereas son is more laid back but still very chatty.

They both have amazing qualities and annoying ones equally!!

So do parents really have a favourite and do they subconsciously show it?

PS I would swear my younger brother was my parents favourite 🤣🤣

I have a favourite.

I only have one DD

I have 4 DC and no favourite!

I don't have a favourite, but as pp says I relate to them each differently and also it depends on their age / phase as to which one it is more pleasant to spend time with at any given time!. At night time the ones that sleep through are my favourites :)

I tell each of them they are my favourite, my only ds is my favourite ds, my 6yo dd is my favourite 6yo dd, and my 4yo dd is my favourite 4yo!

I tell mine ds1 is my favourite big boy dd is my favourite daughter and ds2 is my favourite little boy.
Just asked dd if she thinks I have a favourite she said yes it's her!

I think some parents have favourites but not all.

I can see clear instances of favouritism with my wider family and among some of my friends. I’m not sure the parents are always aware of it though.

We definitely don’t have a favourite. I just can’t make my mind go there, they are both so awesome and so loved.

Some days I find one child or the other easier & prefer their company that day. But it's so changeable. I obviously don't tell them this or act upon it. They're tiny anyway so wouldn't understand. However I guess it's possible to consistently find one child easier... and favourites develop that way.

But if I found that happening I would massively work against it - cheesy bit alert - I love my babies massively. And refuse to have them grow up feeling lesser than the other in my eyes.

I tell my dc I have a favourite daughter and a favourite son. I only have one of each! They are so different, one finds going to bed so much easier, the other eats everything and anything so at different points of the day I find each of them 'easier' than the other.

It's like comparing Apples and oranges.

I don't have a favourite. My DC are so different from each other it'd be difficult to pick a favourite even if I wanted to.

I have seen overt favouritism in a few families I know. In one case the favoured child (by the mother) was/is utterly loathsome and got away with murder. I felt very sorry for his sibling.

I definitely have a favourite child... my nephew 😂