Sorry this is long. DS is 4.5 has crazy thick hair that sticks out in all directions and needs cutting every 4 weeks, he’s been having it done since he was 18 months and is usually great. Last time we went he was abit iffy while they were cutting round his ears, it’s been overdue for a few weeks because we were busy over the weekends it’s half term this weeks so we went today he said he didn’t want to go but I thought he would be fine when we got there, well he went absolutely mental he screamed like I’ve never heard him scream before you would think he was being murdered . Took him outside got him to calm down he said he would go in if and he sat on my knee she started cutting and he lost it again, screaming, trying to hit and kick me and the hairdresser she tried to carry on but had to stop because she was scared she would cut him I was absolutely mortified. He's NEVER done anything like this or behaved so badly in his life. He’s gone straight to his room and I’ve told him he’s not coming out till his ready to go back and apologise to the hairdresser, but I went up 20 minutes later and he’d fell fast asleep. I was absolutely livid but now I’ve calmed down AIBU to punish him over this? I know the hitting and kicking are not acceptable but what do I do about him not wanting his hair cut I know it’s his body and should be his choice but I can’t just leave it to grow out of control? I’m going to talk with him when he wakes up but I really don’t know what to say