A week ago i went abroad for work. It was a panicked pack, and a five day jetlag trip- and i remember not being able to find my engagement ring just before I left but presuming it will have been in the couple of places I take it off- near the bath where the children are, the childrens bedrooms when I sleep with them (they are little) or my own bedside table. I never leave it normally unless Im going somewhere it might be robbed- but he taxi was honking and Id been faffing and I just ran out. I have come back from the trip and there is no ring. I am trying to turn the house upside down - for five days I have searched but it could be in any piece of lego, any bag... ive contacted everywhere Ive recently been but jetlag has wiped my memory of when I even last saw it. Ive searched my photos but there are none with my hands on that could give a clue to when i last sae t. My mind is mush. Devastated.
We have had a cleaner, gardener, surveyor and a nanny in the last fortnight unsupervised in the house (just a busy time). I have asked and they don't know about it. I even harboured a fantasy that my fiance had picked it up and, seeing it abandoned, to teach me a lesson hadnt told mehe had it- but I confessed I'd lost it this morning while flatout under the sofa with a torchlight- and he is as devastated as me. Hope, extinguished.
He also said that the receipt for the ring had been open in his admin drawer recently and he thoight that was odd as its six years old (we are a bit tardy in tying the knot). In fact, he thought it must have been me snooping for the price (!!!) it wasn't me. But now I feel like there may be more to this. What if someone isn't as nice as they appear? Sometimes the house feels like grand central station with so many people coming and going. Everything relies on trust and I do like the people who work with us, the nanny is especially dear to me. And my memories are playing tricks on me. Did i take it with me? Was it another trip I decided to leave it off, for? Did I drop my bag at any point and have it in there? Is that a vague recollection or an imagined event? Did I leave it on a table? Did the baby put it in a toy? Is it under a table? Os it in clothes at the cleaners? Why cant I remember? Where is it?
I don't know what to do. The fact the receipt was out worries me.What i wanted to know is- say you worried (worried, not suspected) that someone may have nabbed it- but hadnt a clue of thats true or whom- would you pretend you had video cameras in your house to try to get it back? See if anyone fesses up or "finds" it? Or what would you do? To speed up the search?
I feel so powerless. Its an irreplaceable ring. And now I see suspicion everywhere and the home doesnt feel safe.