Keep silent or share?

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Im moving area so leaving my job next month,so this will no longer affect me.
The thing is a work colleague, confessed to me she had been sleeping with the manager for the past 18 months. She is married with two dc and so is the manager. I know this is totally not my concern but i feel bad for the other staff that still work there as this girl gets preferential treatment all the time....and clearly now i know why. For example she is always late , off work or given minimal duties etc where as the manager is very hard on the other staff ,including me and has reduced us all to tears on so many occasions. I have not told anyone about this affair , but I am unsure what to do.Thanks in advance.

Also a person that I am really close to at work, told me about a year ago that she had received inappropriate text messages from him but it did not go any further. He also tried to kiss me once. I kept quiet about it.

I may have a quiet word with head office but for now I will do nothing. Just allow some time

I would speak with HR but have a list of specific details rather than vague ‘getting away with murder’ type comments. HR might not take it any further unless someone is prepared to formalise their concerns as a grievance.

Keep quiet! Yes they’re in the wrong for having an affair but if you come out with it and their families found out, that’s 4 kids caught up in the middle of something that really isn’t your business! If there are concerns about his professional behaviour they need to be brought up separately to HR!

I know. 4 children who it would destroy. A wife and a husband that have no idea.

If I did tell, it would have to be anonymously. You likely have a reference now, but you can't guarantee you won't need another in future. & it's very likely others have already sussed what's going on but are keeping quiet. People aren't stupid. I think I'd leave, and forget it

The manager knows I know, and silently said he does not want to talk about it and that it is over between them. Think he wants to keep things calm and hope i go quietly and never hear from me again. Mmmmm

Never burn your bridges. It's so childish.

This has nothing to do with you.

There both adults. You may need a reference or to return to your old job. People have affairs at work all the time unfortunately. I'm sure your not the only person that knows.

What a slag!!!

Personally I would leave it, I don't see the point in meddling if you are going to leave any way. If someone else wants to complain who still wants to be there then fair enough, perhaps encourage them to speak up?

What a slag!!!

Who, him or her?

Personally I think he sounds like a bit of a predator personally.

Do nothing OP, it's none of your business and as has been said you won't know if you'll cross paths professionally again.

Will it affect your references for work in future if you say owt ?

No i do not need a reference as I already have another job. She is still getting away with basically doing nothing all day apart from flirting and gazing at him...so annoying when we are running round like idiots. I know it is not my business but it is affecting the whole team but I am the only one that knows about it....and also she is working late every evening ,so its clear they want time alone. I am not a gossip clearly I would of said something if I wanted to cause trouble. Also he had tried it on with another member of staff and tried to kiss me once! I told him wtf are you doing? but didnt tell anyone. His poor wife.

Why have you not complained about his behaviour already?

Even if you didn't know he was sleeping with her, he still treated you badly to the point of reducing you and others to tears so why did you (all) not report him?

He is a strong character , and makes you feel rubbish at your job...even though we can all do it standing on our heads. I wish i did report the incident. I suppose its up to the others to do the same. We all think he is a tosser but also need our jobs.