Hen do abroad- leaving toddler AIBU?

[Quornie]

One of my best friends is getting married next year and I am proud to be one of her 6 bridesmaids. She has organised a ‘girly’ holiday for her hen do for 4 days

My best friend got married earlier this year and we had her hen in Spain over 3 nights. I hadn’t ever left my 2 year old DD for longer than a night prior to this and like you, I was nervous. I won’t lie and say that I didn’t miss her, there were a few tears shed everyday, however, it was lovely to spend time with my best girl friends. I wouldn’t say I was miserable by any means, I did have fun but it was also fantastic to get home

You should go OP. It would mean that you can have a really nice time with your friends, and DP and DS can have some time just the two of them.

I've been to magaluff twice with my bf twice. The restaurants and sea front bars are soooo nice. We go home by 12 so we don't get all the party gooers.

I would go. Enjoy your life. It shouldn't stop because you have a child.

Go and enjoy yourself. I had a 5 day holiday in turkey with friends when my DD was 7 months old and loved it. Of course I was happy to be home with her again, but the break was a huge tonic.

Go and recharge your batteries.

I had a week away from my older two when they were 2 and 4.

I can't quite describe how heavenly it was.

Well she has said repeatedly that she completely understands that not everyone can go for various reasons so she is also doing a night out at home for anybody who may not be able to make the trip away. That being said she has just been here talking about how she’s ‘a bit disappointed’ in our other friend who has been doubtful if she can go for financial reasons, and has offered to pay her deposit, ( she had her 1st DC 2 weeks ago!) so I’m not sure this sentiment genuinely applies to the bridesmaids!

I don’t think I would plan a 4 day hen do myself, but I do think it would be a nice break away. DS stays over at my parents around once a month for 1 night/2 days and he’s completely fine, as am I. It was just the inital thought of it being longer than that. But I do feel a bit more reassured now so I do think i’ll be going!

Also would really kill to see their faces with me turning up at the airport with my
2 year old for a Magaluf hen do

I had the same debate recently. I decided in the end to go for 2 nights as I felt happier with that. Had a great time but was definitely ready to get back and see the children- maybe you could do similar?

Your child is not a baby any more, and will be cared for by his father. I personally think it's healthy for parents to spend time away from their children now and then. I never slept away from home until I was in my teens, and found the idea incredibly distressing throughout my childhood, which made me miss out on lots of things (my parents were rather clingy).

Make it something normal for your children.

Posts like this make me think I'm not normal. id be first in line!

Think - if you were your DP would you even be questioning it? Go and enjoy yourself! Get some sleep and enjoy meals without a toddler hanging off of you.

I went on my best friends hen do abroad Friday-Sunday when my DS was just less than a year old. I was away from him Thursday-Monday though and it was absolutely fine! I was able to FaceTime then a few times and he was happy!