To want to know what the school are going to do about physical violence and assault to my child?

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I posted here as hoping to get some quick replies.

There has been two separate issues, 1 - a girl out my daughter in a head lock at school, push her up against a wall and tried to strangle her. The child has been told off as far as I know but the school didn’t even inform me that this had happened. This is assault and I would expect to be told.

2 - a big pinched my child twice in the belly before the school holidays and yesterday threatened to beat her up, during lunch he told her I’ll get you later not now as we are in the hall. My daughter cried her eyes out last night and didn’t want to go to school this morning.

I have gone into the school this morning and spoke with the deputy head, he said he will speak with my daughter and the child involved.

My child was in such a state I don’t think physical violence and threats should be tolerated in school. I also feel like the school try to minimize any issues to protect their school reputation, which I understand but my child was scared to go to school today.

So I would like to know what you would expect the outcome to be with both children in this situation. I am wondering if perhaps the school should arrange a meeting between me and the other parents to discuss this and ensure this doesn’t happen again.

If I went and put someone in a head lock and push them against a wall and tired to strangle them I would expect the police to be called. I’m not saying they should call the police for this child but surely something more than just telling them off should happen?

So I’ve collected dd from school today and asked her how it went. She told me the deputy head spoke to her today then to the boy that threatened her and told him off.

Later the boy was moaning at my dd saying why did you tell your mum? You got me in trouble. Then later in the day he pushed her!!!

They called me earlier and asked me to come in to meet with the deputy head and dd’s teacher tomorrow so I said that’s fine!

But since collecting dd I have been trying to call the school to tell them something needs to happen tomorrow morning or else I will not bring my dd to school. I’ve called 3 times but no answer

The office staff will probably have gone already so it'll be the answering machine until the morning. Keep your meeting and discuss what has happened today. Tell them you are not happy with how things are progressing. You might want to check your school's website for their anti bullying policy so you can read it and know what they think they should be doing in cases of repeated incidents.
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In all honesty I wouldn't be keeping my child from school. It doesn't really serve a purpose at this point.
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You can go to the police if you wish, some parents do, but as potentially mentioned they can't do much if the other child is under 10.

Find the schools anti bullying policy (probably on their website) and take it into the school with you and ask them to explain exactly where they’re at with dealing with it. Also see what their policy involves regarding complaining and escalating the complaint if nothing is done.
I would not accept this at all, you are right it is assault.
I had an incident once with my son where he was strangled and pushed around at school (a one off incident). The head had the parents of all the children involved hauled in the same day. It never happened again. Don’t put up with it.

I managed to speak with the lady in the office and the deputy was in a meeting! I told her what happened and that the boy had a go at dd for telling on him then later pushed her. I told her I won’t be bringing dd into school unless I hear back from them as she isn’t going to school to be pushed, punched or threatened! The lady in the office agreed with me and said she will ty to get him to call as he was in a meeting! She then called back and asked me to come in tomorrow at 8.30 and I agreed.

Since then I have spoken with dd and asked who didn’t she tell the teacher what the boy said to her after being told off! She said she did and the teacher said she would keep an eye on him. But she didn’t tell the teacher that he pushed her as it was at the end of the day.

Well done!

Heartfelt sympathy for your dd and good luck to you in the morning, hope school sorts it out.