Taking dd to a party only ds has been invited to?

[Pesha]

My ds (3.8) has been invited to a party this afternoon by a friend from playschool. He can be quite manic so I wouldn't want to leave him there, for their sake more than anything! I had intended to get someone else to look after my dd who is 6 but completely forgot (baby due on monday so was half expecting to have had it by now and so not be going anyway!).

So I have told dd that she can come but cannot eat party food, wont get a party bag and has to play nicely, not trying to take over or anything and come and sit with me when I tell her to. I wont dress in her party clothes just normal clothes and was thinking Ill spend slightly more on a present than I normally would. Its in a big hall with lots of soft play blocks etc, have held 2 parties there myself for dd, so I know there's no limit on guests or things provided IYSWIM.

I know i wouldnt mind if someone did this to me but I feel ever so cheeky doing it. Am I being unreasonable do you think?

No, Yeovil () why?

Just wondered.
Why is yeovil

That was just a random enquiry by the way! I live in trowbridge, but it could be worse, it could be melksham

Well I suppose Yeovil isnt really but its a long way from Would like to move to one of the surrounding villages but cant see it happening.

Im confused by you asking about frome but then I'm confused by most things at the moment!

glad it all worked out pesha and good luck with your imminent birth

Trowbridge is far superior to melksham LL

I went to school in Sherborne, much nicer. Not quite sure how I ended up here

And thank you Jampot

Which school LL?

Everyone understands Peshas predicament. Good God, I'm surprised she even managed to get there being so pregnant - well done.

I'm so glad you all had a good time.

And I am so glad that you rang before. It is polite. No one would mind, if asked beforehand, surely ?

But I did have 3 extra siblings (3 different parents bought their invited child and a sibling), arrive unannounced, to ds's party.
It really wasn't a problem becasue we had loads of food, extra party bags and the children were totally lovely.

But later, I did think to myself,that personally, I actually thought that is was a bit rude -on the parents part, for not asking.

Maybe its just the norm and acceptable these days.

Thats the thing Oblomov although I wouldnt mind at all and think most people wouldnt (assuming its this sort of party in a hall and not at a soft play centre or somewhere where you pay per child) I do think it is quite rude still really or could be seen as such. And I did ring but had left it so late there was no answer so did turn up with her unannounced in the end but luckily as i said they were lovely.

A couple of years ago a friend of mine had a party for her dds 4th birthday and someone brought not only their 4 yr old daughter but their 2 year old son (still in nappies which I had to change!) and left them both there to go shopping And were late back to collect them!

Only shopping Pesha, I'm surprised they didn't go off to the pub, or for a shag

Lol, I would think its more than likely they did, shopping was probably just the cover story!

oh god though, its all part of having kids close in age, surely/toddlers who can't be left at parties etc

I never mind older or younger siblings at parties and I'd do a party bag for them and feed them. Why not? Its a party, a celebration, not something to get all precious about.